Banned 2 of my in-laws from our home (long)

I was a 4th grade teacher in NYC. My wife died of cancer 2 years ago. Our daughter was only 5 at the time of her death. I had a large support system, including parents, in-laws, siblings, and friends. I had 2 years of paid family leave, and I took it. I was able to devote my time to supporting my daughter in her loss. It was possible that my in-laws would continue to live with us forever. <br><br>We will never know their plan, because we have permanently banned both of them from our home, and they have done the same. We are cut off for life. But before this all happened, my daughter was complaining about them a lot. ILs were making mistakes in parenting my daughter. Like, they would tell her that I am weak. They would tell her that she is a burden because I am fat and she is fat. They would use a lot of Backhanded compliments and passive insults. They would say things like “Your mom was a good person, but she let herself go. She was not a beautiful woman, but she was pretty inside.” <br><br>I was taking care of my daughter. It was my responsibility. If we ever went out, I made sure my daughter stayed fat-shamed free. We cut out any activity that my family and friends preferred if my daughter was not comfortable with it. She was like the queen of the house. They both died when she was 4, and they were very close, so she missed them a lot. I was making sure she felt like the most important person in the house. <br><br>ILs were jealous. They were cut out of parenting my daughter and they were not part of our plan to raise her. ILs were becoming more and more critical of my daughter. They would look down on her. They would judge her. They did not like her, and she did not like them. I was done with them. They had done too much, and I needed to protect my daughter from them. ILs thought there was a way back into our home, but there wasn’t. I cut them out of our plan, and I was done. <br><br>ILs were going to start paying me money to let them live with us. They would start paying us more money every year because we needed it. They had the money, and we needed it. They were millionaires and we had nothing. We could use their money to help my daughter. If we let them live with us, they would pay for a lot of things she needed. But I told them that they could never parent her again. They would have to let her do anything she wanted without question. If she did not want to see them, they would not see her. If she did not want to talk to them, they would have to be quiet. They could not say anything negative about her. They could not insult her. They could not use backhanded compliments. If they did, they would have to leave. I told them this, they agreed, and the ban was lifted. They were allowed to come into our home again. They lived with us for 2 months, until they both died.<br><br>ILs thought there was a way back into our plan. They thought my daughter would forget. They thought they would be able to parent her again like they did when she was 4. They thought they could go back to their old ways. But there was no going back. They were guests in our home. They were tolerated because of the money and because they had no place to go. They were treated well, and they were happy. They were given a chance to be a part of our family again. They stayed up late talking to me. They told me they loved me and they loved my daughter. They went back on all of it. <br><br>ILs dies 2 months after they moved in because of a 3rd story fall. They were in their 70s. They were healthy. They walked normally. They lived on the 3rd floor of our home, and my daughter and I lived on the first floor. They dies because they fell down the stairs. My daughter was there when it happened. She witnessed it. She said they were fighting. They were in an argument. ILF tripped and fell, and ILM followed her. They were in the middle of a fight, and they were not watching the stairs. <br><br>ILM died 1 month later. ILF died at the scene. ILM was in the hospital for 1 month. It was a closed casket funeral. They died because they would not follow the rules of our home. I told them they could not parent my daughter. That meant they could not question her about anything. They could not tell her what to do. But they did not listen. They went back on their word. 2 months of following the rules and they went back on their word. They did not think I would enforce the rules, but I did. <br><br>My daughter and I are much better off without them. We do not have the money, but we have a better life. My daughter is happier. She is thriving. She loves school. She is thriving physically. We are fat, but we are in shape. We are happy. ILs dying made our life better. It is true what they say. When one door closes, there is a window somewhere. Always look for the window. <br><br>ILs thought I was weak, but they were wrong. I am not weak. I took care of my daughter when they would not. I protected her physically. I gave her a happier life. I am happy too. I am fat, but I am in shape. I have cut out all fat-shaming in my home. I was weak when I let them live with us. I should have kept them banned. But they died, and it made our life better. Always remember, fat doesn’t mean weak.<br><br>EDIT: I am getting a lot of questions, so I am going to answer some. <br><br>1. What happened to your daughter’s mother?<br><br>My wife died 2 years ago of cancer. It was a short and brutal process. She was diagnosed, and 6 months later she was gone. I took leave from my job to help comfort her in her final months. I helped her with everything, including bathing, feeding, and giving medicine. I held her hand when she died. We cried together. She died very quickly. <br><br>2. Why did you not have ILs arrested?<br><br>ILs should have been arrested. I would have pressed charges. My daughter was a minor, and they were emotionally abusing her. But they died first. They died and it solved the problem. We are better off without them. <br><br>3. Why did you let ILs live with you if you did not trust them?<br><br>ILs were millionaires. They offered to pay for my daughter’s education. They offered to take care of any expenses in ILs life if we let them live with us. We would not have to pay for anything. We would be able to live comfortably. And they would also be able to see their granddaughter and be part of her life. <br><br>4. What will happen to ILs property and money?<br><br>ILs sold their property when they moved in with us. They used the money to invest in stocks and bonds, and to cover any expenses for my daughter. ILs were becoming older, and they knew they would eventually die. They wanted to make sure their granddaughter was taken care of, and they wanted to give that responsibility to me. <br><br>5. Are you ILs sole beneficiary?<br><br>No, but my daughter is. ILs left everything to my daughter, with the condition that she must attend college. If she does not attend college, everything will go to me.