My (28F) husband (29M) keeps his porn history on his phone open so I can see it and I think this is one of the biggest red flags in our marriage.

Our marriage is going through a tough time. My husband has not been getting a job for almost a year and his job searches have been unfruitful. I am a teacher so I am working to support his job searches. <br><br>There have been a lot of arguments leading to resentment on my side and I have suggested marriage counseling a few times before but he did not agree. <br><br>This has been going for quite a while now. So I suggested marriage counseling again recently and he agreed. <br><br>So we both wrote down the issues we have with each other so we could discuss this in our counseling session. My list of issues were more than his list of issues. <br><br>I wrote that I wanted him to communicate more openly with me. I also wrote that I want him to start to take responsibility for his actions and be more introspective of himself. So what did my husband do? He wrote his own list of issues with me. <br><br>Some things he wrote down were about taking responsibility for my actions, being more open with him and that I should fix myself emotionally and stop being so negative. <br><br>I feel so hurt and betrayed he said those things when it was him who had been causing most of the problems in our marriage! <br><br>And then I saw it. My husband keeps his porn history on his phone open to I can see his porn history! I cannot believe it! That is so disrespectful! <br><br>I feel like I need to leave him. But then we have a marriage counseling meet next week and I don’t wanna leave him until then. But then again I feel like I needed to leave right now! But then I get scared that I am making a big mistake if I leave him without giving him a chance to fix things. But then I think that I am making a big mistake if I stay in my marriage. <br><br>What should I do?