It's okay to want to be childfree, but I'm also sick of the "I'd rather die than be a mom" thing too

I am a woman who has been certain I didn't want kids since I was little, and for me it has nothing to do with my view of motherhood being tied to my self-worth, it's a simple "I don't want kids because _____". I've always felt like being childfree is the best choice for me and I kinda resent the fact that the dialogue about women and motherhood tends to be very black and white in the way that women who want kids are kinda shamed for wanting them, and then women who don't want kids HAVE to hate the idea of motherhood to be valid. <br><br>I don't hate kids or moms and I like children, I just don't want any, that's all. But I feel like I've been judged by some moms and pro-choice people for not feeling like I'd die if I had a child. Like, I won't die if I have a kid, it will just upset my life, and I'd rather not deal with that. It's not the end of the world for me, and I don't feel like I'm being martyred for not having kids. And yet, I've been judged by childfree people for not being extreme enough in my stance against motherhood. <br><br>I just feel like I want to have kids or not have kids without being shamed, judged, or feeling like I'm not doing enough. Just because I don't want kids doesn't mean I hate moms or kids, I just don't want to be one. You people do you and I'll do me and we'll all be happy, right?