I fatfished my gf and she’s not taking it well

I’ve been with her (35F) for 3 years now and she’s always been very insecure about herself and her appearance. She’s always complaining about how she’s too fat, too ugly, too short, too frizzy haired, and gets upset when she sees how good looking I (28M) am, which she claims is an affront to her and makes her feel like garbage. I’ve been trying to help her take better care of herself and to improve her self-esteem, but she always declines.<br><br>The other night, I finally snapped and I told her the truth. I said that I’ve been lying to her all this time when I compliment her. I said she fatfished me and that she looked completely different in person and that it makes me feel awful. I told her she was very cute and beautiful, but that not everything she posts online is real. She was furious and extremely upset and said that I was gaslighting her. She said that she used to have very low self-esteem and that she’s been working very hard to get rid of it. She also said that I ruined all of her progress and made her feel like garbage and said that I shouldn’t have said all of those terrible things to her.<br><br>We haven’t spoken since and I’m not sure what to say to her whenever we do talk. I just wanted to help her feel better about herself and to get her to take better care of herself. Am I in the wrong?