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My (22F) boyfriend (24M) doesn't do any chores and I'm at my last straw

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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I give birth to our first child in just a few weeks. We live together in a one bedroom apartment. We have been together for 3 years. <br><br>Our issues started when I was about 3-4 months pregnant when I had really bad morning sickness and extreme tiredness. During that time, he would do a lot of things like cook and clean and laundry but now he just won't help at all. We argue about this everyday. <br><br>I already told him multiple times that I just want us to do the chores together, you know divide them up evenly. I've give him examples of how we can divide them up. Clean the bathroom, kitchen and vacuum the living room and dining room. And I'll do the laundry and the cleaning of our bedroom. But he still won't give a shit. <br><br>I'm not trying to paint him as the bad guy here. He's a great boyfriend and a great person. But I'm seriously at my last straw. I've told him that I just can't do all the cleaning and laundry and cooking. I'm heavily pregnant and I don't want this child to be born in a dirty environment. I don't even think that's legal in most cases. He still won't help. He says that he's tired from his work after a long day and he has no energy. I work too, I'm tired all the time. But I'm always cleaning and sweeping and vacuuming and doing the dishes and laundry. I'm so fucking tired of this. But he still won't help. <br><br>I've told him multiple times that I want him to do his chores or else I'm calling my mother over and telling her all that's happening. But every time I call my mom, he'd suddenly be this cleaning machine. He'd literally clean the whole house in front of my mom. He'd act like this for a few days then everything goes back to how it was. <br><br>That's why I don't want to call my mom this time. She'd just see how much of a "good boyfriend" he is and that'll be it. I want him to be held accountable for how shitty of a partner he is. I told him that if he doesn't give a shit about our relationship, then I just don't know what to do with him. He still doesn't give a shit. I told him that I won't do any of the housework from now on and I won't tell him to clean again and that it's his responsibility to clean. But he still won't give a shit. I told him that I don't give a shit then. I'll clean everything before the baby comes and that'll be it. <br><br>I'm going crazy. I don't understand what to do anymore.

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