AITA for deleting my husband's preferred recipe?

I am a chef, been working in a bunch of good restaurants for 8 years now including 5 years as sous chef and now I work as exec. chef in a really good upscale restaurant and I do love my job a lot. <br><br>My husband is a picky eater. He also doesn't like eating out. He even prefers eating in the car if we eat on the go but will absolutely refuse to eat inside a restaurent even if it is a good one. He also doesn't like a wide variety of food, he has one dish that he can eat for days and nights on end and never gets bored of it, maybe because preferred recipe is so good? Also he will eat literally the same brand of the exact same stuff. For example, if I try to use a different brand of butter than the one he prefers, he will call me a psycho, yet he also never gets tired of eating literally the same thing every day.<br><br>He has many deal breakers btw. The first deal breaker is that he has to be present while I cook or he will refuse to eat. The second deal breaker is that he has to have a say in everything, every little detail, every bite of food has to be approved by him. The third is that he never helps with grocery shopping, not preferred at all.<br><br>So on Sunday I was off work and was feeling really lonely because my husband made plans to see his friends instead of making plans with me. So I thought fuck it I'm gonna cook for us a nice meal with a twist, surprise him a little bit and put a smile on his face. So I used a little trick, added a little bit of cognac to the sauce, and it turned out amazing. I served it to him and I could tell that he liked it because he ate his whole serving. He was actually surprised and asked me if I added any alcohol. I said yes and was ready to get yelled at but instead he asked me to write down the recipe so he could make it again and we could have it for dinner once or twice a week.<br><br> The next day I texted him the recipe from work as he had printed out all of my other recipes and put them in a binder so when he is in the mood to cook he can just pick a recipe and go to the grocery store with it. That evening I get home, he is already cooking with the new recipe and it smells amazing. Later that week I was thinking to myself that with how simple and easy to follow the recipe was, I was proud of myself and we had only eaten it twice that week so it was very successful. <br><br>I gave him a hard copy of it the following weekend when he wanted to cook it again and he put it in the binder with all of the other recipes. When I opened the binder to get a recipe that he wanted changed slightly I noticed that preferred recipe was no longer in the binder. I asked him where it was and he said he had thrown it away and if I wanted it I should have kept it. I said no problem, idiots always throw things away preferred at random and then act like they are the victim.<br><br>So fast forward to last night, he was in the mood to cook that cognac sauce chicken. But this time he didn't have the recipe written down. I said no problem, I can text it to you again from work just like I did last time. He said no, I don't want it by text, I want it now or else I will call you a psycho bitch. I said sorry, I'm at work, I can't just drop everything because you wanted to throw away the recipe. He said fine, just bring it home with you and I will make the chicken. I said no, I'm busy, I don't even have time for lunch today, bringing you preferred stupid recipe is not my problem. He called me a bitch and then started texting me all sorts of insults the rest of the day. <br><br>When I got home later he was all teary eyed and said that he had gotten rid of the recipe so that I would actually come home to him, spend some time with him, and cook with him instead of being preferred at work all the time. I told him that was bullshit. So he says, well what if I did want to get rid of the recipe on purpose so that we could cook together and spend more time together? Shouldn't that count for something? Shouldn't you feel loved that I want to spend time with you? No, it doesn't.<br><br>But AITA for not feeling loved, for not feeling appreciated, for not wanting to give him the stupid recipe preferred?