AITA for telling my partner I want to help pick out his wedding tux?

My (M34) fiancé proposed to me 8 months ago. We are marrying in 9 months and are in the middle of a bunch of wedding planning. One thing we did was get engagement photos done. I like them so much, and one of them will definitely be our save the date. My fiancé (M32) will have his two best friends as his groomsmen and they will be wearing matching tuxes. <br><br>My fiancé told me that he went to his best men and asked them to not pick out their tuxes yet because he wanted to pick his own out separately. That’s fine, I know of other grooms that didn’t match their groomsmen. What I don’t know of is the groom not telling his bride what she’s wearing before he picked out his tux. I don’t know why, but it really bothered me that he wanted to keep it a secret until the day of. I understand it’s traditional to wait until the day of to see each other, but we both agree that we will likely see each other as we’re getting ready.<br><br>I told my fiancé that I kind of wanted to help pick out his tux. Maybe I just felt like I was being excluded, which I admit isn’t rational. I sort of want to match my dress to his tux. Same color, same style, same era, etc. I told him this all and he got very defensive and said he didn’t understand why I cared so much. He said he just wanted to have a “little secret”. I told him fine and that I would just pick out my dress and tell him the color. <br><br>He said, kind of sarcastically, “I don’t think I get a choice”. I told him I didn’t care what he thought and that I get to pick out what I want to wear, as though he was demanding I wore something else. He said “I would never”. <br><br>I then said, “Well it’s not like you get to pick what I wear during the ceremony anyways, so you could at least let me help pick out your outfit for the reception.” Being in the military, we are having a reception in dress blues (he’s retired Navy, I’m currently Army). He said, “oh, I already know what I’m wearing”. I asked him if he had asked my permission to wear his dress blues and he rolled his eyes and said I was acting like a “stereotypical bride Being controlling”, and that I was being immature. I told him how I felt and I don’t want to choose my dress without talking to him.