I've only been on this sub for about half a day, I've already got a lot of questions.

I'm not sure I'm a 100% against having kids. I've got a lot of questions<br><br>- Do I look at a child only as a means to an end- as a means to satisfy my own desires and needs? A means to express myself? A means to develop myself? Or would I see the child as an end in itself? <br><br>- How do parents make sure they're not raising kids as narcissistic extensions of themselves? How do they make sure they're not raising kids as an extension of themselves? Shouldn't they?<br><br>- What's the best age to get pregnant? Is it better to have kids in your 30s or 40s? Your career is set, you're older, more mature- but your health would be better if you were in your 20s. 20s seem to be too soon, you're too immature and haven't gotten far with your career.<br><br>- If I have kids, how do I avoid influencing them? I don't want to influence them because I don't want to stabilize them. <br><br>- Is there something wrong with me for being childfree? I've always been really ambivalent towards kids- I'm neither against nor for having them. I'm in my mid-30s and been on the fence about kids for a long time. I never even understood why people were so pro or anti kids, it's always made sense to be neutral and not really give a shit<br><br>- Do people really put their entire lives on hold and into raising their kids? Is it the case that the parents are the ones sacrificing for their kids and putting the kids' needs ahead of their own?<br><br>- If I have kids, should I divorce them when they're 18? I don't want to keep a familial relationship with my children. I don't feel any sense of familial obligation towards them. Is this a bad idea?