My husband (M42) keeps me (F39) in a "state of readiness".

I have no idea how to handle this. My husband has a weird habit where he'll ask me to do things, then not be ready himself or just not want to do it anymore. This has been going on for years. It's like he wants me to be in a state of readiness for when he finally decides to do something. <br><br>Examples:<br><br>1. After we wake up, he'll ask me to shower and when I come out of the shower he hasn't even made a move or even woken up.<br>2. He'll ask me to pick out an outfit for the day, do my hair and makeup, and when I'm done he'll still be sitting on the couch doing nothing. I'll ask him "What's taking so long? Are you still going to work/go out and eat/whatever?" He'll respond like "I am. I am. Don't get impatient."<br>3. I'll ask him if he wants to do anything that night and he'll ask me to do my nails, or get my hair done, or get something waxed and when I finish he'll say "Actually I'm feeling tired. Maybe we can just stay home."<br>4. I planned a trip a year ago. We're supposed to go there in March. I had asked him if he wanted to go on a trip and he said that sounded like a lot of fun. I did all the planning, booked the tickets and hotels, everything. He just approved it all. Well a couple of weeks ago he said he didn't want to go on the trip anymore. I asked what the reason was. He said he didn't feel like it and he's too tired and doesn't want to do anything. I asked then why did he say he wanted to go to begin with. He said he did, but he doesn't anymore. I asked if he ever really did or if he just wanted me to do all this work. He got mad at me and said of course he wanted to go, but then he didn't. He said it's not a big deal, I can just cancel the trip and that he doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything anyway. I ended up canceling the trip. It's so frustrating, how can someone go from saying they want to go one one trip or do one thing, to saying they don't want to go anywhere or do anything?<br><br>It's really frustrating. I don't know if it's mental health, or Wonderland Syndrome, or something else. I don't know how to handle it. I hate sitting around all the time.