They're not my kids, and not my problem.

I'm 27, and I've been dating, now living with my 42 year old boyfriend for about three years now. <br><br>He has two children (aged 14 and 16 now) from his previous marriage, and they live with us a week on, week off. Their mother lives about an hour away, by train, so I completely get why she wouldn't take them to school on the weeks. <br><br>They're rude as anything. Ungrateful, obnoxious little shits who can't stand the fact that their daddy has moved on, and that he's with someone younger than their mother. My boyfriend is a very gentle, kind and patient man, and will tolerate anything from those little bastards. <br><br>I'm not like that. <br><br>I had a busted childhood with an abusive alcoholic father, and a neglected upbringing that I resented for a long time. I grew up with not a lot, and had to work from a young age. <br><br>These two have been handed everything they've ever wanted their whole life. They have no idea how to be empathetic, or kind. No idea of the value of a dollar, and would throw a fit if they didn't get their way. Any attempts at discipline from me have been met with shouting matches and calling me a bitch. I have been ignored by them countless times, and am just generally treated like I am beneath them, because I'm their father's partner, and not their mother. <br><br>I take care of them when their father isn't there in the week. I cook, and clean up after them. I have a full time job, and I'm expected to also do all the housework, and look after these two brats? No. <br><br>I've given my boyfriend an ultimatum. <br><br>One more day of rudeness from those two little shits to me, one more comment that I am 'not their mother, so I should shut my mouth' or any disrespect towards me, and I'm moving out, and that will be that. <br><br>Their father hasn't grown a pair, and stood up for me, or told them to treat me with a little respect, or even go and live with their mother permanently. <br><br>They're not my kids, and frankly, I don't want them to be.