I didn’t invite people to my wedding.

I (32/F) am getting married this Saturday. I’ve been with my fiancée (34/M) for 10 years. My father is dying. He would love to see us married but doesn’t think he will be around to see it. So we arranged for a wedding this coming Saturday at his home in the backyard. There will be our parents, my dad, one of his sisters, and her daughter (my cousin). <br><br>I have a sister who is two years younger than me. Growing up, she was prettier and better socially. I didn’t realize this as a child. I just knew that I was an outcast and that she was popular, and she didn’t like me very much. I knew that the reason was because while she was always told that she was pretty, everyone always told me that I was smart and would achieve great things (I did, though nothing too spectacular). I’m now a high school physics teacher. Nothing too glamorous. <br><br>Our relationship got worse when we were both teenagers. Boys would always be more interested in her, and I became the tag along. I once went to a school dance with her and the two boys that we were interested in. I was never the boy’s date; I was just a tag along. <br><br>As we got older and went to college, we went our separate ways. I went out of state to college and she went to a local college. My parents were disappointed that she didn’t get into our state’s main university. She didn’t put that much effort into getting good grades, but she was still pretty. When our parents would ask her how school was going, she’d answer the question the question by talking about some party she went to or some guy that she was interested in. She seemed happy with her life, but I think it bothered her that I was doing well whereas she was doing poorly. <br><br>She dropped out of college and went on to be a cocktail waitress. I went on to get my master’s degree and eventually become a high school teacher. I was always the career girl. She was the pretty one. <br><br>Once I was established in my career, I cut things off with her. It’s not that I actively dislike her. It’s just that I have a hard time connecting with her. While I was a voracious student, she was a voracious dater. While I was out making friends in college, she was at home getting drunk with her friends from high school. While I was working on my master’s degree, she was trying to get some rich guy to marry her. <br><br>Once our dad got sick, we both returned to his house. I am going to be his primary caretaker. After our dad is gone (which I hope is a long time from now, but the doctors don’t think so), his money and assets will be divided evenly between us. I don’t think she can handle money well. She’s bought a number of things while here that she really doesn’t need. I’ve talked to her about how she should try to not spend so much money, but she’s answered with something like, “I just got a thousand dollar paycheck and I’m $1000 poorer. Where did all my money go?” Having worked my whole adult life while supporting myself, I know exactly how I spent my last $1000. <br><br>I just didn’t want her at my wedding. I am married to the love of my life. No matter how much money she made, she’ll never be as happy as I am right now. I asked her to be my maid of honor. <br><br>She was really pissed off. I think that I would have felt the same way had she done the same to me. She has a daughter and a twin boys. So she now has three kids to get ready. I don’t have kids. It seemed like the least that I could do for her. She has three kids and a husband (my brother in law) that she needs to take care of. However, we aren’t really close. I think she feels like she needs to be part of my life because we were once in the same womb, but we aren’t really friends and have never really been friends. I don’t even like her husband. I don’t like her kids. I can barely tolerate her. But I offered to let her be my maid of honor at my wedding, figured out a way to get her and her kids to be flower girls and ring bearers, and am inviting her and her husband. That’s the least that I can do. <br><br>I told her this and she got angry. She said that I shouldn’t have even offered any of this to her if I didn’t want her to come. My answer was that I wanted her there, but just not her friends. She said that the invitation should include her friends because they are a part of her family. She said that I treat her like I’m disgusted by her and I treat her like dirt. This went on and on. <br><br>I said that we could invite all of her friends, but only if she could list all of them. She said that she couldn’t today, but later. I told her that I needed to get all of the invitations in the mail yesterday. If she could get me the list, she could invite all of her friends. No such list has been given to me. <br><br>I feel so unappreciated. I’m giving her a great opportunity to be involved in my life. I would love to be involved in her life, but she’s never been involved in mine. I’ve always felt like I was nothing more than her tag along. I’ve tried to turn that around and she’s insulted me. <br><br>Anyway, I just wanted to share this. I’m tired of my current situation. I love my dad a lot and I wish that he was doing better. I love my husband. He’s my rock. <br><br><br>Edit #1: I forgot to mention that I have two children. So our family is my parents, my two children, my husband, his parents, his sister, her daughter, my sister, and her three kids. So there will be 13 people and 3 dogs. <br><br>However, I did invite one person. Inviting this person might have been a mistake, but she is one of the few people that I am friendly with. She’s a cousin on his side. She is 44 and we are close. She’s an alcoholic and her marriage is failing. She needed a vacation, so we offered to pay for her to come here. I know that she’ll tell his family and they will tell my sister.