My (f28) husband (m35) is obsessed with being a dad, I'm starting to worry that he wants a "traditional" wife

My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We have discussed having kids before and we both wanted them. During our 9 month engagement, we both agreed we wanted 3-4 kids and that I was open to being a stay-at-home mom (I was a teacher before I got fired/quit last year).<br><br>It finally happens, I was 3 months pregnant when i first found out, met with our OB and everything was fine. IIRC, it's not an issue to travel in the first trimester (short distances), so I was fine. We told my mom and his mom at 12 weeks and our friends/family at 16 weeks.<br><br>We found out we were having a boy at 16 weeks and we were both super excited to tell my mom (she has four boys, and every time she gets pregnant, she's always "hoping" for a girl but deep down I think she likes being a boy mom). My husband was so excited about the results and we were on cloud nine.<br><br>But then one day, I happened to scroll through Chambers and landed on r/daddit and it made me realize something was off. My husband posts on that sub a lot and I think it's just a lot of dads venting and talking about parenting. One post I saw was about the dad "wishing" that he could stay home and be a stay-at-home dad.<br><br>This made me realize that I'm kind of being forced to be a stay-at-home mom once our baby is born. I know it's not uncommon for moms to stop working once they have a child, but I also feel like a traditional stay-at-home mom is not only caring for the children, but also cooking, cleaning, ironing, and being the "housewife." I've never really been one to do these things. I'm not a big cleaner, but I know how to clean and I can iron and do my own hair and makeup and all that.<br><br>I know this is the 21st century and I'm pretty sure my husband knows this too. I know a lot of women don't want to be stay-at-home moms and I was open to being a stay-at-home mom until our child is 2-3 years old and then I was going to go back to work or I was going to be a part-time teacher.<br><br>Now I'm kind of rethinking this and wondering if my husband wants me to be a stay-at-home mom forever and give up my job. He's been talking about being a dad non-stop and I feel like he's neglecting our relationship. Yes, being a dad is great and all, but I'm also going to be a mom. Am I just being paranoid? I really hope I'm not.<br><br>I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and I really don't want our relationship to be strained. I know having a baby is a big change, but I just want to make sure that we're on the same page.<br><br>EDIT: <br><br>I think there was a lot of confusion about the teacher part, so I just wanted to clarify that I was a teacher, but I don't have a job as a teacher right now. I was a teacher for 3 years and I got laid off and was then looking for a new job. But I was furloughed from my new job and I was hoping to get called back once my pregnancy was over.<br><br>Also, our living situation: we live in a 3 bedroom, 2 1/2 bath house in the suburbs. We have a backyard and a nice neighborhood to take walks in. It's not a tiny apartment, but we do have to be mindful of our spending. We both have good paying jobs and we make enough to cover our expenses/needs and wants.<br><br>TL;DR: My (f28) husband (m35) is obsessed with being a dad. He wants to be a hands-on dad, but I'm starting to get worried that he wants a traditional wife as well.