UPDATE: My (28M) ex fiancee (28F) is getting married and invited our mutual friend (26M) that I consider family but not me.

The first post got locked for some reason, so I made this one with the ThrowRA account.<br><br>My (28M) ex fiancee (28F) is getting married and invited our mutual friend (26M) that I consider family but not me. <br><br>First of all, thank you to everyone who commented on the first post. And thank you to those who PMed me their thoughts. I didn't expect my post to get so much traction and I'm not really active on this sub. So I apologize if I didn't answer some of the messages.<br><br>My update is very late, as the wedding already happened last week. So here's what happened. As most of you suggested, I decided to do nothing. I'm already a pretty private person and I figured the less drama the better. When I read all the comments, I realized that I was making a big deal out of nothing and decided not to bother with it.<br><br>So on Saturday, I played hockey and Mark played goalie. All was good and normal. I didn't get to read the comments until it was over and I was driving home. I didn't have the energy to deal with any drama that day, so I just decided to drop it altogether. Besides, I had a game that weekend and we needed all the luck that we could get.<br><br>On Monday, I got a text from Mark asking if I wanted to hang out on Friday. We usually hang out every month or two but it's been a while since we last met up. We talked about our jobs and lives for the first hour. Nothing out of the ordinary happened and Mark was his usual awkward self. <br><br>After an hour or so passed, we somehow got to the topic of Michelle and him going to her wedding. I don't remember how we got to that topic, but it might have been my fault. I did ask him about his trip and how it went.<br><br>So when he told me that he went to the wedding and that Ralph was there, I kind of lost it. I didn't yell or get angry, but I was raised in the 90s and 2000s so I grew up in a culture where boys don't cry. I apologized to Mark and excused myself to the bathroom. When I went in, I broke down in tears.<br><br>Mark followed after me, asking if everything was okay. I told him that I'm sorry and that I'll be okay but I'm just emotional in the moment. He told me to take my time and that I can talk about it if I want to.<br><br>I composed myself and felt bad about how I reacted. I apologized to Mark but told him that I'm just a little hurt. I figured he would get mad at me, but he didn't. Instead, he apologized for not telling me and then told me what happened.<br><br>So he told me that Michelle sent him a message in December saying how she's getting married and all that. Pretty normal stuff you talk about with friends and acquaintances. But what happened next was shocking to me. Apparently, she told Mark that she knows we used to date but she considered us broken up for a while and that she doesn't consider me a friend anymore.<br><br>She apparently told Mark that she hopes I'm doing well but she's not inviting me to the wedding because we aren't friends or anything. Mark apparently told her that it doesn't matter and thanked her for inviting him. And that's it. He told me that he didn't know that I still had feelings of hurt and betrayal. He said that in his mind, we were just broken up and didn't think that I would feel hurt.<br><br>In a weird way, I kind of felt a little bad for him. I don't like that he had to feel guilty over something that he didn't do. Sure, it was a little shitty that he hid it from me, but I get why he did it. He's awkward and telling me about this would've made him feel bad. I would've probably felt bad too if I were in his shoes.<br><br>Anyways, I told him that I forgave him and thanked him for telling me. And then I explained how I felt. I explained that it all still feels like it happened yesterday. That it felt like we both had an unspoken agreement that we wouldn't talk about it but it didn't feel like we had closure.<br><br>And then it hit me. At that moment, I felt something lift off my shoulders. I realized that I felt hurt all these years because I didn't have closure with everything. And somehow, this whole thing gave me that.<br><br>We talked for a couple more hours until we decided to order some food. Mark apologized again for everything. I told him that I forgave him and that I consider him a brother.<br><br>We talked about some other drama that happened while he was at the wedding. Apparently Ralph did some pretty shady stuff while he was there. I won't go into detail but let's just say that he didn't exactly have the best reputation going into this. And it somehow got worse.<br><br>Anyways, I just wanted to thank you all for giving me advice. I'd probably be in a much worse place if I hadn't seen your comments. I'm glad that I decided to handle it the way I did. I guess the moral of the story is that you don't always need to do something about it. Sometimes, doing nothing is the right move.<br><br>So thank you to everyone who commented on my first post. Life is good and I finally have the closure that I needed to move on with my life.