AITA for leaving my partner in an ER for giving me a bottle to feed my baby and not helping me wrangle my other kids?

I'm stuck in a shitshow right now and could really use some perspective. <br><br>What happened: I f10, m42. We have 3 kids together. 2 boys and a baby girl. She is 9mo and has been colicky from birth. She still wails for hours a day and is generally miserable and unhappy. She's perfectly healthy. Just fussy. <br><br>I picked up dinner on my way home and when I did my partner called and said she was headed to the ER with our oldest as he had an extremely sore throat all of a sudden and she feared the worst. She has a tendency to panic about random things but I said okay. I got home, gave the other 2 kids Baths and we ate. <br><br>She called and said it was strep and they were giving him steroids but it was going to be a while. I said that was fine and I was putting the kids to bed and would keep them home tomorrow. She said that wasn't necessary, they'd be home shortly but I could put their uniforms out and Ep them a fruit snack. I did that and put PJs on the kids and rolled a bottle out to my sons for the baby. When she called back and said that it was actually very serious and it would be hours I said that was fine, I'd roll the baby out to him, give her some bottles and put her to bed on my son but she said that was too much and to just bring them all so the older 2 could get their sleep and I said no. <br><br>She got angry and said I was being rude, it's not like feeding a bottle was hard and wrangling the kids for a couple hours was too much to ask and I said it was a little bit too much to ask when I'm doing everything with the kids tonight and she said I was being rude and that I should have just brought them anyway and I said I wouldn't, the hospital was no place for young kids in the middle of the night and that's final. <br><br>She's going off and it's 3am and I'm tired so I'm going to bed. AITA for just not taking them to the hospital?