My daughter absolutely breaks down in tears every time, and it’s starting to piss me off

Update: I posted this just over a year ago, and it got some interest here, so I thought I’d provide an update.<br><br>Firstly, I apologize if this story doesn’t really have anything to do with guns. But it’s kind of related, and I absolutely have to tell it here, so bear with me. <br><br>My brother was shot in a home invasion in 2017, leaving him a paraplegic. Last fall, his ex-wife (who he was still living with) was shot again in their home during a home invasion, and unfortunately did not survive. No one is charged in either case. His disabilities make it impossible for him to live alone, so he bounced from one sibling to the next for a while, but wound up with me and my wife (my sister’s house is too small and she has several teenage boys, so he doesn’t want to live there anymore). <br><br>The room he was staying in has big glass french doors that aren’t even lockable. So after some begging and begging and begging, I finally got him to let me change out the doors. His new room now has lockable solid core doors and some fancy locks, and he feels safer. <br><br>And you know what? That’s right. He feels safer. <br><br>Now we have a situation where my daughter (the one who started this whole saga) has grown up a bit, and doesn’t think her brother’s new locks are good enough. So she’s also demanded I change out the doors to her room too, and I absolutely will not. I told her straight up, her room is a more secure location than his was and she doesn’t need to worry about it. And she does not care.<br><br>I told her we can discuss it if I hear of a history of people kicking in doors on our street, and she told me she doesn’t feel safe in her room. I told her I’d happily buy a gun and let her keep it in her room, and she didn’t want that. So, she doesn’t want a solution, she just wants to feel safe.<br><br>And you know what? That’s not right. She’s a grown woman and she doesn’t get to feel safe. <br><br>Original post:<br><br>[For the sake of this story, I am going to be referring to my children by the following: <br><br>D = younger daughter<br>S = older son<br>J = older daughter<br><br>I just turned 40, and my wife and I are empty nesters and live alone. We still have two bedrooms open, and we have been splitting time between our primary house in the city and our lake house. We have a spare bedroom in each house, and it has been a challenge getting our adult kids to visit us. Plus we have a brother with a disability that needs somewhere to stay, so we’ve found ourselves splitting these rooms in a number of ways these past couple years. <br><br>We just built a new lake house, and we decided to add an extra bedroom so the kids can all visit at once without a problem. We decided to go with French doors for each of the four bedrooms. <br><br>And now we have a problem. <br><br>Each of the French doors has a slight (maybe 1/8 inch) gap beneath the door. You can see a sliver of light from the door being ever so slightly ajar, and it really doesn’t even look like a gap at all. My son and older daughter were OK with it. But my younger daughter isn’t. <br><br>The first time she saw it, she absolutely broke down in tears. Full on panic attack, telling me she can’t sleep in a room like that. I told her it was no big deal, and she could get a door sweep, and she looked at me like I was crazy. <br><br>I tried to convince her it was no big deal, but in the end I had the contractor come back out and fix it. <br><br>The next time she saw it, she had the same reaction. My wife told me to calm down, and we’d just have the contractor come out again and fix it. But this time something just snapped inside me. <br><br>How many times does he need to come out to fix the same problem? How many times does my daughter need to completely break down in tears? <br><br>But I don’t know if she’s being a bitch, or if I’m being a dick. <br><br>I absolutely hate that I’m letting this get to me, and I don’t even know why these stupid doors are getting under my skin. <br><br>So chambers, A friend told me to post this on some other sub, but I figured you’d be the ones who really get it. <br><br>Am I being a dick?<br><br>Edit: quick edit, I told her that it’s probably water that’s causing the gap, and that it should close once we get all the moisture out of the house. She said she was good with that and went to sleep, but my wife told me to not be a dick.<br><br>Edit 2: The room is brand new. It was built above a garage and the whole house is brand new (we moved in 3 months ago). The whole house is still adjusting and settling in, the floors creak and doors are tough to shut. I feel pretty confident that water is causing the issue here.