My (28M) girlfriend (26F) threw out the majority of my alcohol collection.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years now. We are cohabitationg, and it's been a great relationship. <br><br>We have had one failing up until now - she grew up in a household where the father was a raging alcoholic. This has meant she has a strong dislike of anything related to alcohol. <br><br>At the start of our relationship, she explained this and said that she'd understand if I wanted to carry on drinking, just to please be considerate of the fact that she doesn't want kids of hers to see booze in the home. <br><br>I told her that drinking at home was more for chilling after work/some quiet time to myself, but I'd rather be the one who makes that decision for our children than for her to grow up in a household where she feels I didn't respect her feelings. I cut down my drinking massively, to the point where I don't even think about it any more.<br><br>However, I do have quite an extensive collection of spirits and some beers, which I've accumulated over the years. It's probably in excess of 80 bottles, with a few of them actually being worth a fair amount of money.<br><br>I keep everything in a cabinet in the spare room, where she never goes unless she's getting something out of the cupboard for me or something.<br><br>We were getting ready to go out to a dinner last night, and she wanted to get a dusting done quickly before we left. I was getting changed, and when I came out she was making her way back to the stairs with the dusting equipment. When I asked, she said she'd done the spare room as well.<br><br>I thanked her and said she didn't have to do that, but she was actually pretty insistent that she wanted to. <br><br>When we got back home later that night, I decided to have a drink. I went to grab a bottle, and the cabinet was basically empty. I immediately knew something was up, and I asked her what had happened to it all. <br><br>She said she'd thrown it all away because she felt it was unnecessary and how I'd said I didn't drink much any more.<br><br>I was absolutely furious, and told her that those were all things I'd collected over years and that she shouldn't touch other people's things. All she did was basically just laugh at me. I asked her if she'd kept a record of what she'd thrown away, or if she'd kept any of the bottles to sell, and she more or less scoffed at me.<br><br>I told her that some of those bottles cost in excess of £150 a pop, and that she'd basically thrown away thousands of dollars.<br><br>She basically told me that I was making a big deal out of nothing and that I should be grateful she even bothered to clean the room at all. <br><br>I took the bins out this morning and there was basically everything. Some of it was open and I'd kept unopened bottles of things I'd bought in the past, just because I'd likely never be able to purchase them again. <br><br>She's left for work now, and I just don't even know what to do. I'm so angry that she did this, and I can't see her ever apologising for it. I've basically just been told that she was right and that I'm overreacting.<br><br>I don't even know where to go from here. She's done the one thing that she knows would hurt me the most, and yet she won't admit it.<br><br>If it comes down to it, I'll likely speak to her family about getting as much of the money back as possible - they're all upper middle class and quite wealthy, and I'm sure they'll appreciate that their daughter has likely broken up a relationship by being completely selfish.<br><br>I've tried to explain to her that it was basically a BPD attack to throw all my stuff away, but she just laughs and accuses me of trying to diagnose her.<br><br>I just don't know what to do. She's the first person in my life to ever make me feel like I'm truly loved, and I know that I'd miss her like crazy if she was gone. But I feel like she's made a huge attack on me as a person, and I really don't know if I can move past it.