If you want to marry a fat woman to be a change agent to help her lose weight, you're a bad person.

Lately, I've been hearing a lot of men saying things like the following two stories from a r/TrueOffMyChest post and a r/askteenboys post:<br><br>r/TrueOffMyChest Post:<br>------------<br><br>Want to marry a fat woman to help her diet<br><br>I’m a 19yo male and I’m 6ft tall and I’m 70kg (for reference). I want to get married to a fat woman to help her live a healthy life, be there for her through thick and thin and help her lose weight. Now I know it sounds crazy, but I promise I have good intentions. I think there should be more good people in this world and not judge people for being fat because I have been through that when I was 100kg 5 years ago. But right now everyone at my uni says I'm crazy and stupid for wanting to do this. I don't care about looks and I think people should be kind to each other no matter what. I want to marry someone who is fat because I want to help myself feel better and make the person I marry happy as well. I think if I can change myself for the better why can't I do it with my potential wife as well? It feels like a calling for me to do this. I just want to help out someone and make them happy and also help them live their best life. I’m planning on going to medical school in two years. I just don’t understand why people think this is wrong. Can someone please explain to me why this is wrong? I'm not trying to offend anyone and I just want to do the right thing. Sorry if this post is too long.<br><br>EDIT: Instead of just downvoting this post, why don't you give me your reasons on why this is wrong?! Like I said, I have good intentions to help people out and I care about this a lot.<br><br>EDIT2: First of all, I'm not doing this to improve my self esteem. Second of all, I don't think making a fat person lose weight is abusive?! If I saw someone suffering with obesity and was a personal trainer to help them lose weight, would that make me an abuser? I also think you guys have weird fetishes for thinking I'm into this because of some sexual fetish.<br><br>EDIT3: I don't get why you guys are so mean and passive aggressive in the comments. There is no need to be toxic and insult me when all I want to do is do something good.<br><br>EDIT4: Some people are saying I’m trying to change the person I marry. That’s not true. I like the person I marry for who they are and just want to help them improve for their health. I don’t think this makes me an abuser. If I met a person with diabetes or some other chronic illness and I became a doctor to help them, would that also make me an abuser? I don’t get why you guys are saying I’m being abusive when all I want to do is help people out.<br><br>EDIT5: I don't understand why you guys think this woman I'm gonna marry is gonna be depressed. If anything, I think this will help her have higher self esteem. Also, stop saying I'm gonna force them to lose weight. Even if I became a personal trainer, I would never force someone to lose weight. That's just stupid.<br><br>EDIT6: I think some people here need to calm down and have a glass of water. I don't think you guys are saying anything helpful, just toxic stuff that doesn't make any sense. Sure, some people like being fat, but does that mean it's healthy? I don't think so.<br><br>EDIT7: I don't get why you people are calling me an abuser when I have the best intentions to help people out. Sure, some people like being fat, but does that also mean I should let them suffer obesity just because I don't want to be called an abuser? I don't have time for this anymore.<br><br>EDIT8: I don't get why some people here think I'm gonna be fat shaming this person too. I don't think being fat is a bad thing, I just don't think it's healthy. Can't you guys just accept people for who they are and just try to help them out. Also, I think some people here need to stop projecting things about me that are not true.<br><br>EDIT9: I think people are just calling me names at this point because they think being overweight is healthy. I'm not gonna engage anymore since there's no point talking with someone who thinks this. Also, I think some people here need to stop making assumptions about me.<br><br>EDIT10: I don't understand why people are saying I won't love this person for who they are. I don't think being fat is a bad thing. I just don't think it's good for your health. I don't get why being a personal trainer for this person makes me an abuser. I would marry them for who they are and I would still love them no matter what.<br><br>EDIT11: How does this make me a groomer? All I wanna do is help people out and I just wanna do some good for people I love. Sure, some people like being fat, but does that also mean I should let them suffer obesity just because I don't want to be called a groomer? I don't have time for this anymore.<br><br>EDIT12: I grew up in a very thin-centric society where there's a lot of pressure to be thin and I don't think that's right. I think people should be able to be whatever size they want to be. Like I said, I have good intentions and I would never force someone to lose weight. I don't get why this makes me a groomer.<br><br>EDIT13: I don't think there's any point in me talking with anyone about this topic anymore. Like I said, I have good intentions to help fat people and I care about this a lot. I'm not gonna engage anymore since there's no point talking with someone who thinks being overweight is healthy.<br>-----------<br><br>r/askteenboys post:<br>------------<br><br>What do you think about boys who only date fat girls because they want to help them lose weight?<br><br>My friend is doing this rn and I’m concerned that he’s only doing this so he can improve himself and feel better.