AITA for refusing to tell my brother and his wife to take down the pic of me?

Hi, I am 26. My brother is 30 and I have 2 nieces. I love them all but I have always had an issue with my brother and his wife. They are babying my nieces and won’t let them do a thing. The only time they have both done something is when I made the elder niece help me with doing the yard work and the other one help me with the dog. I am their favourite person because I am the only one who doesn’t do everything for them. They want to learn and I teach them stuff. They even help me around the house and they say it’s fun and all that. I do stuff for them too like buying them candy and taking them to the park but they have to do things for me as well. <br><br>Anyway, I have had a couple of baby showers and my brother and his wife got me stuff. And thank God, they are not the kind of people to give hand me downs because that’s just disgusting. They purchased the car seat, a baby monitor and a baby bag and stuff. I thanked them multiple times but they wanted a picture and I agreed. The only thing was that they wanted the picture to be of me and the baby. I agreed but when they got home, they cropped it and now it’s only the baby and the stuff they got her. I was pretty annoyed but I let it go. After all, it’s not like their gift is going to waste.<br><br>Then a couple of months ago, they gave us a baby bathtub and a bunch of stuff like diapers. We thanked them again and they wanted to take a picture of my husband and I with the baby. But they cropped it again and posted it on socials. My brother and his wife are the only people in the picture now with the baby and the stuff they got us. They even sent us the picture and told us that they are gonna use it as the birthday invitation for our daughter’s first birthday. It’s next month and they are being super weird about it. They asked us to make sure we wear exactly what we wore in the picture but I told them we’d rather not. They told me I have to wear the same outfit if I want my daughter to have an amazing birthday. <br><br>My husband and I told them to just chill and we are gonna wear whatever. If they wanna be petty, that’s fine. We also told them that that the picture has no connection to our daughter’s birthday anyway. They told us that they’ll just crop us out again. They also told me that I have to let them know where I am at all times whenever we are at their house for the birthday party. I am confused as to why they are doing this but my brother and his wife just told us to do it. <br><br>My brother called me yesterday and told me that if I don’t tell them to take the picture down from socials, they will not give us anymore gifts and my daughter’s birthday party will be ruined. My husband told them that the picture is not even the birthday invitation and that they can buy their gifts back if they wanna be petty. Plus, they don’t have to give us gifts. <br><br>But I feel like I am the AH. They gave us stuff and the picture doesn’t even have our consent.