It feels like the love and appreciation for bigger women on here is repressed by some women

Hello! I just wanna say that I love this sub and I’m so happy that there’s a place where bigger women can be celebrated by everyone and be in a space that’s safe! But, I wanted to ask if anyone else has noticed that there seems to be backlash on here (by some bigger women) when someone posts that they love bigger women and then explains why as a man. Now I’ve seen that some men that claim to love bigger women also try to claim that they’re doing us a favour by being interested in us and I agree that that can be very unattractive when a man tries to act like he’s doing us a favour but the problem that I have is that a man can say something like:<br><br>“I love the way that a bigger lady carries themselves, it’s inspiring to see how confident you can be in your own skin after all the backlash that you get for being bigger and I think you guys are gorgeous”<br><br>And they’ll get a ton of backlash from some of the ladies on here saying that they should stop fetishising us and that they should stop acting like we need their validation and I feel like this is a perfect example of what I was talking about earlier. Now of course there are plenty of women on here that are fine with men saying these things but I feel like there are a lot that have been hurt by men in the past and are projecting that hurt onto men on here. I feel like if a man is genuinely trying to compliment you and then you flip it and say that they’re giving us validation then that’s a perfect example of someone that has been hurt by a man in the past and is now lashing out at men that are interested in them. Now I may never know for sure if that’s the reason but I just wanted to bring it up and see what people on here think!