Poly women is the most stupid thing I’ve ever heard of in my life?

Poly men I can understand because men have to do the courting and they always have to be on the look out for a new woman in case he loses the other but women? Women don’t have to do anything, women just sit there and wait for men to court them. I don’t get it, a women with 3-4-5 different partners to choose from. A women is already a chosen. What makes them think they can do the choosing? I’ve heard women get mad at their husbands for even looking at another woman wrongly but but but women want to openly have multiple partners? I don’t get it.