Happened to see a screenshots of my husband’s text messages and I’m overwhelmed

I never like to give away too much about our finances but our combined salary after taxes is around $6,500/month. We have about $3000 of expenses monthly and we budget $1500 for groceries and about $400 for dining out. The rest is used for home improvement and unexpected expenses. <br><br>I got married in June 2022 and my husband and I started living together in our newly purchased house. He was a very good cook and was working from home and used to cook lunch for us every day. We started making a lot of improvements in the house and hired a contractor to do all the work. It was a lot for him to manage the contractor, work and cook. I was working 12 hour shifts and was always tired in the evening to help with anything. But I was surprised that the work was going on slowly and the contractor was always home and it was very expensive. The contractor started working on our house in June and it’s still not done. <br><br>My husband and I started having a lot of fights about the contractor and his cooking. I thought cooking three meals a day was taking a toll on him and his mood changed a lot. I suggested that we hire a part time cook but he refused. I was very tired and didn’t say anything else about anything. He used to make plans to go out to eat at least 4 times a week and I thought it was getting expensive so I suggested reducing it to 2 but he refused. I thought his mood was the reason he was being stubborn and I thought I should just let him be. Now that I saw the screenshot of his text messages, I’m wondering if he was making all these decisions to spend more money with our contractor. <br><br>The screenshot showed him and the contractor discussing how much food he bought and how much wine and beer he is drinking everyday. Then there were texts about the contractor’s girlfriend and how he spent $1000 for her birthday and my husband replying saying how he spent a lot on alcohol last weekend. There were some more text that were very embarrassing to read. How his girlfriend likes to do “it” in every room of our house and they have to keep changing the position for her to feel happy. He even bought her a new sofa for her house and his girlfriend was very happy to sit on it. The last text was him asking my husband to send him money so that he can buy something for his girlfriend’s birthday. <br><br>I have never seen my husband drink so much and I have no idea how he is spending so much on alcohol and the contractor’s girlfriend. We don’t drink much at home because my husband doesn’t like to have wine or beer and we don’t have a lot of friends to invite over for drinks. I have no idea how much he is drinking everyday. <br><br>I have no idea how to talk to him about it. I’m thinking of talking to him about the contractor and the money he is spending on the contractor’s girlfriend but I’m scared to talk about him drinking and the other stuff. I’m scared that he is going to be mad at me. But I feel that I have the right to know what’s happening in my house. But how do I confront him about it?