My wife “baby-trapped” me

I put baby-trap in quotation marks because I’m not sure what she did is the actual definition of baby trap, she didn’t have a kid to make me stay, just against my will.<br><br>So my wife (32F) and I (34M) have been together for eight years. We have a little boy together (5M) and a baby on the way. <br><br>The thing is: I didn’t want more kids. <br><br>When our son was 2 years old, we talked and I told her I didn’t want a big family and she told me she wanted two. We agreed to think about it and two years later we talked again. At that time she told me she wanted three and I still wanted one. We agreed to talk in two years but she never brought it up and I didn’t want to. I just assumed she changed her mind and was ok with one. <br><br>When our boy was 5 we talked about getting a dog and she told me she wanted another kid instead of a dog. I told her I wasn’t willing to have more and that I wanted to keep it at one. We had a small fight but she said it was ok and that she wanted to be a mom of one as well. Until a month later she told me she was pregnant. <br><br>At first I was upset. I didn’t want this and I felt like she went behind my back to do this. I asked her to abort the pregnancy and she told me she wouldn’t do it. I told her I didn’t want to be a dad of two and she said I had no choice and I couldn’t leave her alone with two kids. I was so mad and frustrated but she was still so happy about her pregnancy and I felt so horrible to not be excited about my own kid. Then she sat down with me, cried and told me how my words hurt her and the baby and she made me feel bad and I’ve been feeling bad ever since. <br><br>It’s been five months since then and the baby is due soon. I still don’t want to be a dad of two and I regret letting her talk me into this. I regret not standing up to her and demanding she’d abort the baby. I regret not leaving when she got pregnant. <br><br>I just don’t understand how someone can do this. She knew how I felt and she still went through with the pregnancy. Everytime I look at her or the baby room I get so angry. She noticed and she thinks I’m just scared. But I’m not scared, I hate her. <br><br>What should I do?