My wife's [26F] dad and I [28M] got high together and he confessed that he forced his wife [54F] to marry him because she was pregnant and that's why he's pushing our marriage so much.

My wife and I have been together for a couple of years and we're thinking about getting married in a few years. We've been staying with her parents because I lost my job due to the pandemic. <br><br>Her parents have been pushing us to get married and I personally think it's because her dad wants us to. He's the one who brings it up all the time. <br><br>I was FaceTiming my buddy who was smoking some weed and I had a little bit so I was smoking with him. My wife's dad walked in and could smell the weed. Instead of yelling at me he asked if I had anymore and I gave him some. We started talking about my friend's family and that turned into us talking about his parents and I asked if his mom and dad were still together and he said no. <br><br>He said that they got married because they had to not because they wanted to. I asked what he meant and he said that a lot of couples in the 60's & 70's got married and it wasn't always because of an accident but because they were forced to. He said that back then you were supposed to wait until you got married and so if you didn't it was a lot of gossip. So when he got my mother in law pregnant he had to marry her. He said he didn't want to marry her and she didn't want to marry him but they were told by their parents to marry or to get out. <br><br>He said that he wants my wife and I to get married young because we're in the same situation and he doesn't want our kids to have to go through what he did. He said that he hopes my wife and I don't fail at marriage like he and her mom did. He said that they've been together for almost 40 years and they botp wish they weren't together. <br><br>I just listened and didn't say anything. I was just shocked because I had no clue that my wife and I were in the same situation except that I want to marry her. <br><br>Now he's pushing us even harder to get married. He's trying to throw us a wedding and my wife and I don't want to get married so soon. She's hoping to get pregnant after we get married not before. She's not pregnant nor do we plan on her being pregnant anytime soon but her dad keeps pushing us to get married. He's even saying that he'll pay for everything because he wants his "grand kids" to have parents together unlike he and her mom. <br><br>My wife and I are thinking about moving somewhere else because she agrees that we shouldn't get married just because we have to. We want to get married when we're ready. I don't want to be in a marriage where my wife and I both wish we weren't together. <br><br>How can we get her dad to see that we don't want this? Should we just get an apartment and move out?