AITA for saying my friend can’t come to my birthday party because of her racist boyfriend?

I am going to be turning 24 this upcoming Sunday and have planned a birthday party. My sister in law is black and there will be other black family members present. My friend (41F) has a boyfriend (40M) who unfortunately is blatant about his feelings towards black people. <br><br>My friend and her boyfriend have been together for about 2 years, but she has known him for nearly a decade. One night we were out for drinks when he made a racist remark upon learning my brother married a black woman - she didn’t speak up. Not long after that, I invited her to my brother and SIL’s wedding and she declined because her boyfriend didn’t approve of interracial relationships and didn’t want to go. It wasn’t a big deal to me as I knew she wasn’t racist, but the fact she didn’t speak up bothered me. <br><br>In the time since, she has slowly blown me and our other friends off more and more to spend more time with her boyfriend. She no longer speaks to one of our friends who invited her to see a black singer perform and she turned down another friends couples臣game night because her boyfriend’s girlfriend couldn’t make it (he was still going, she ended up staying home). <br><br>We would occasionally go to lunch one on one, but she would never say anything about her boyfriend’s comments. I didn’t want drama, and I valued my friendship with her. <br><br>For my birthday party, I made the unpopular decision to uninvite her. She asked me why and I told her. She asked if it would be okay if she came by herself and I said no. <br><br>She was very upset and said that she thought I was a good friend and that she valued our friendship. I asked her if she valued it enough to stand up to her boyfriend and to stand up for herself (she has essentially been dumped for his girlfriend), but she became upset and stormed off. <br><br>I’d like to think that I’m not the AH for not wanting someone who is racist at my birthday party, but I can’t help but feel bad that I hurt my friend. <br><br>TL;DR: I didn’t want my friend to come to my party because I knew her boyfriend was racist and I invited black people.