(UPDATE) My wife [32F] is a teacher and I [34M] hateful towards her female students who have crushes on male teachers

First of all, I would like to thank every single one of you who commented on my last post. I'm so glad I posted it because it really helped me to understand what was wrong with my actions, and it also made me take the time to reflect on my behaviors and how they were affecting the people I love. And I'm happy to say that I've made a lot of progress.<br><br>I decided to do a bit of research into why I felt this way and decided that it would be a good idea to speak to a therapist about it. And I'm really glad I did. As many of you pointed out, this isn't about the girls, it's about me, and I needed to understand why I felt that way. I spoke to a therapist last week and they were able to point out my methods of coping and avoiding certain things in my past. It was very insightful and I now understand why I feel this way. And I'm happy to say that it's helping me a lot. <br><br>As a couple, we've also made a lot of progress too. We spoke about everything and I told her that I was seeking help. She was very supportive and told me that she could see a change in my attitude. And it's true, I can feel it and I can see the positive impact it's having on my relationship.<br><br>I've also taken your advice about the girls. As you've pointed out on multiple occasions in the comments, they aren't doing anything wrong and they're just teenagers who don't fully understand how the world works yet. I now make an effort to be as nice to them as I am to everyone else. And it feels good. I understand that they aren't the reason my father cheated.<br><br>We've also spoken about how inappropriate the "joke" about wanting to fuck them was. And I've told her that I'm going to be more considerate in the future with my jokes and let her know when one is inappropriate. And so far, it's definitely helped prevent any arguments. <br><br>We've also talked about my jealousy and how I need to work on that. I told her that she is the love of my life and that there is no one else I'd rather be with than her. I also told her that I'm happy to do a paternity test when our baby is born but that I don't want to do one for my son. I also told her that if she wanted to leave me, I would understand and I'd set her up for life. I also told her that I'd rather die than be abusive to her in any way, and that if I ever was abusive to her or our children, she has every right to leave me. And if that's what she wants, she can leave at any time. She was very happy with this and she told me that she didn't want to ever leave me and that she's very happy with me. <br><br>I've also been making more of an effort to help her out with our son. I've been more proactive with feeding him, changing him and helping with his bath time. And I can see how happy it's made her.<br><br>It's been two weeks since my therapy session and I can already see a huge improvement in our relationship. <br><br>I want to thank every single one of you who commented on my last post. You helped me see what was wrong and you gave me the courage to be a better husband.<br><br>Edit: I changed "blame" to "made an effort to understand why I felt that way".