The moment I found out how to make my wife happy

I’m a husband of 8 years and a father of 4. I had a few hours to myself the other day and was scrolling through Chambers when I stumbled upon a post on r/AskWomen on something that the women wish their husbands could understand but are too embarrassed to tell them about. Sophia the robot just made a post about it on Facebook and I want to give her credit for it.<br><br>About half way through this post a lightbulb went off in my head. I asked my wife if it was true and she said that it was partially true and that it’s important to her but she wants to make sure that she’s happy as well. I asked her a few questions about it and we both agreed that we wanted to do this. The funny thing is that every person that’s talked about this issue on the post have had a very different view on it. Some people think that the man should do all of the housework because it’s not important to them and others think that the women should do everything because the men work hard to provide for the family. The agreement that my wife and I have come to is that I will do 2/3 of the housework and she will do 1/3. <br><br>I’m lucky that my wife is a SAHM to our kids. It’s been a blessing and a curse for us. I was always told that having a SAHM would be beneficial because the house would be cleaner and dinner would be cooked but that hasn’t been true for us. She spends all of her time playing with the kids and taking care of them but she doesn’t have the energy to clean and cook. We make enough money to hire a cleaner every now and then but the cleaners that we have used in the past have done a half job and the house is still a mess. <br><br>The moment that I read the post it clicked in my head that housework and clutter is the reason why my wife is unhappy. She’s stressed about the house and she also wants to spend time with the kids. I think she feels guilty when she wants to cleanup and I want to play with the kids with her. I also think that she’s upset that I don’t help enough with the kids. We have a chore chart at our house but she does more of the chores by completion percentage then I do. She’s a very selfless person and she will do everything to make sure that her family is happy. I love her so much for that. She’s the most perfect woman in the world and I feel so lucky to have her. <br><br>I had a few hours to myself the other day and I spent the whole time cleaning the kitchen and doing the laundry. When I was done with that I vacuumed and mopped the floors. I cleaned everything that I could and in the end the house looked new. I kept checking to see if she noticed that the house was cleaner. She didn’t notice for a while. When she did notice she seemed happier than she has been in a long time. It made me feel good to see her that happy. I’m not trying to attack SAHM’s in this post but this might help your marriage. I also recommend reading the comments on the original post that I read to see different perspectives. <br><br>TLDR: Cleaning and doing the chores in the house might make your wife happy.