My (34m) wife (33f) asked me to hide our toys before her family comes over. I think we are too good for this kind of thing.
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I am married to the love of my life, and we were both born and raised in Utah. She went to college in Utah and then got a job in Texas. I moved down here shortly after. I was born in SLC and she is from a smaller town. Her family is active in the church and she is not. I am inactive now and never had strong beliefs, but it made my family happy. <br><br>We met, got married, and made a plan knowing she is from a small town and doesn't believe in any of that any more. We agreed to keep the things we don't like about the church private. No problem. We go to visit, we go to church, we keep our heads down and are polite.<br><br>Now she wants her sister and her husband and kids to come visit us at our house. She is worried her sister will find our vibes, dildos, butt plugs, and baby oil and she's worried her sister will judge her. First off, I don't think her sister is going to snoop, and second I don't think her sister would recognize the baby oil as lube and not for actual massage. <br><br>I don't want to hide who we are, we are adults and we are living our lives and we do what we want. I don't want to hide all the time, but I also don't want to hurt her feelings or upset her family. How do I approach them about this and where do I draw the line?<br><br>Edit: I'm not sure why some folks are so upset, but here are a couple things I'd like to clear up. <br><br>1: I am in Texas. This is Texas. If you have been to Texas, you either know this or you don't know yet. <br><br>2: I say she is from a small town in Utah. I know this is a broad generalization, but if you have been to a small town you understand what I mean. <br><br>3: If it were me, I'd not care at all. I'm not the one from a small town in Utah. The church is a part of her family and while she doesn't subscribe, she is not trying to offend them, either. <br><br>4: I am not mad at the church. I had 6 siblings and was allowed to quit going once I was ready to take confirmation classes. I don't have any bad feelings towards the church, it's just not what I believe. <br><br>5: We are adults. There is no reason to think her sister is going to randomly snoop. If you have been to someone else's house, you either know this or you don't know yet. <br><br>6: I sometimes say "we" when it is really my wife's actions and feelings. We are married, I am learning to say "I" more often. <br><br>7: I am sarcastic. I write how I talk, and I talk how I write. <br><br>I think that's it. Let me know if you have any questions.
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