Feminist girls with boyfriends will always have a preference to hang out with girls over their "person" / partner

This is something I noticed pretty recently. And I want to add the disclaimer that in this topic I am talking about a type of feminist that named themselves "feminist", not someone who has strong feminist opinions but didn't call themselves "feminist" in front of their partners/girlfriends. Also by "feminist" I don't mean radical feminist, I mean the average person.<br><br>I am a woman and I have been friends with mostly girls. In my life, I didn't have many good experiences with girls that were close friends of mine (except for 1). For this reason, I started dating, and I found out that I have way more common ground with men than women. So I don't hang out with girls much, I don't have much interest in girls' topics like relationships or gossip, I don't care about women's topics at all. But thanks to Tiktok it's so common to see girls that say they prefer spending time with girls, they think that girls are better, they like to hang out with girls, etc.<br><br>Here is the point, I had many relationships with girls that describe themselves as feminists before. One of the biggest red flags for them is to find out that you prefer to hang out with men more than women. We can even break up because of this. However, you will see that many feminist girls will prefer to hang out with girls rather than their boyfriends.<br><br>I remember when I was talking to a man that identified as feminist. He told me that his girlfriend (they were together for 3 years) hasn't made any close male friends in her entire life; he was the first one. I asked him how she was spending time with him when they started dating if she never had a close male friend. His answer was that they weren't spending much time together in the beginning. She didn't want to spend much time with him until they became exclusive. But after they became exclusive she wanted to spend more time with him. However, he told me that he was spending most of his free time with his friends, not with her. I think that's why she didn't want to spend much time with him in the beginning.<br><br>Another example that I've seen is from a friend of a friend of mine. My friend went on a date with a feminist girl. She was doing makeup for almost 1 hour after they met and she went to the bathroom to do more makeup. When they started talking she was mostly talking about makeup and girly things; my friend wasn't interested in these topics. She was often checking her phone and I don't know if she was bored, but she was spending more time on her phone than on the date. When my friend asked her about her relationship with her ex-boyfriend, she didn't want to talk about it much. My friend was boring for her and she wanted to leave, but she stayed for 2 more hours. She didn't even let my friend kiss her cheek when they were saying their goodbyes and she was giving him dirty looks. I told my friend that maybe she has some trauma and that's why she's acting weird. He told me that when they were saying their goodbyes he told her that he was planning to kiss her and she told him "I don't like to be kissed, I'm not a romantic type of girl." My friend was shocked and asked her "but aren't you straight?". She told him that she's not sure and even though she's dating men, she's confused about her sexuality. What the fuck? She was in her late 20s and didn't know her sexuality yet? My friend told her that she should figure out what she wants before she started dating her next boyfriend and she got angry at him and left. My friend got a text from her later saying that "I don't think we're compatible, I'm not gonna call or text you from now on and I don't want you to call or text me either." My friend was so confused about what he did wrong where he was just being honest, but she got angry at him for this.<br><br>After this experience, I got curious about this topic and started talking to people, men, and women. I realized that this was a common thing, especially with feminist girls. When I told a feminist girl about my friend's bad date with a feminist girl, she told me that she can't deny that it's common for feminist girls to hang out with girls rather than their boyfriends and she's one of them.