My (34f) husband (35m) only "wants one" and I want more

My husband and I have a daughter almost 2 years old. She was a difficult baby and young toddler. Now she's 2 she's really started to be more enjoyable. We have everything we need to have more kids (a house etc) and I desperately want more. He doesn't. He's always said he only "wants one" and now that she's getting more fun he's starting to make a lot of comments about wanting to keep it that way.<br><br>I'm 34. I want to have two more. I'm not sure at all if I'd want 3. I'd like to have the next one sooner rather than later as I don't want my kids too far apart. My husband is just not interested. He says he wants to travel with just the one. I think he's just lazy about the idea of more though. I've compromised and said we can wait a year before trying but he isn't happy with that and says he's not ready at all and will never be ready to have more.<br><br>He's getting pressure from family to have more too. I'm becoming really resentful that he's just decided this is what it's going to be. I don't even remember us having a conversation at all about this. I know he's always said he wants just the one but we were younger when we met. I assumed it was just something you say and you grow out of it. I never thought he was so adamant on just one. I feel so resentful about it. How do I make him realise that this is something I probably won't ever be ready to give up on? Or should I just give up now?<br><br>I've tried to make him understand that if we have more at least we can have some help watching them/a friend for our daughter when she's older. I know it's not guaranteed but he just sees the cons of having more.<br><br>He's also started off handedly making remarks about people who have big families. He will say things like "oh they're just not smart enough to know better" or "they're just too lazy" . He says he's just joking but it makes me feel bad for wanting more. It's really starting to feel like I have no right to feel this way.<br><br>The other thing is I'm just becoming more resentful of him. I've always done the majority of the childcare but now that she's gotten a bit older and goes to nursery a couple days a week he's started trying to make a big deal about how he "looks after" her on the weekends (something he never did while she was small, I always did). He will go out of his way just to show he's participating in this so I see how much he's "helping". He also won't even have her overnight ever and he still expects me to get up with her at night even if she comes into our bed. That being said I don't have a problem with that but I just wish he'd be more helpful with her and if he's not going to be then he should understand why I would want more.<br><br>He's a good man and provider and loves his daughter but I feel like this is such a big thing to me and I don't know if this is something I can ignore. I guess, what I need advice on is how I can bring this up to him. I've brought it up a few times and it just turns into an argument.