My son is the reason I don't talk to my ex or his new wife.

So I'm a 43 year old mom of a teenage boy. I haven't seen or spoken to my ex since he remarried 8 years ago. Before that it was only to discuss our son. We had been separated for 12 years and divorced for 6 years before that.<br><br>One day I get a phone call from a blocked number. It was my ex. He said he wanted to talk about our son. Said he was worried about the influence his new "opinionated step mom" was having on him and he wanted to see if I had noticed anything. I told him I really don't see or talk to him that much since he moved in with you when you got married. He said he knows our son spends the majority of his time at his new wifes house but that still doesn't change the fact that I'm still his mother. I should be more involved.<br><br>I was shocked. I asked him where his "concern" was 8 years ago. He said he just wanted the best for his son. I asked him how could he honestly think that kicking me out of my house and not allowing me to see my son could possible be the best thing for him. He said he wanted to give a happy home life for our son. Said it would be too hard to juggle two separate houses and I'm sure I would have a new man soon.<br><br>That's funny since I was living alone and dating my ex again. I reminded him of our deal. How he got to keep the house if I got full custody. How all bets were off when he broke that deal and married his affair partner. He said he knew it was wrong but he was in love and wanted our son to have a complete family. I could give two craps if he was in love. What the hell does that have to do with me or our son? What does it have to do with my ex wife of 12 years getting to keep her "family home" with her two children in it? He said she didn't want to split the kids and he didn't want to hurt them. I said by kicking ME out he was splitting the children and hurting MY son. He said he knew I could handle it. I was stronger than his ex. I asked why our son had to lose his mom in the process.<br><br>He said he wanted to work together as a family. He admitted our son doesn't talk to him much and said he probably needs me to get through this. Get through what? Their new happily ever after that kicked me and our son to the curb? He said he knows this isn't fair to me but he's trying to do what is best for his son.<br><br>Our son is not his son. He is MY son. My ex does not get to make decisions for him. He also is not the parent to make decisions for the step children. This new step mom is the one that gets to make decisions for them. That is part of having "new parents" in charge. I could care less if his step children like or dislike me. They aren't my children.<br><br>I told him I don't care if he wants to make his new family happy. I don't care if he wants to do what's best for them. I have one concern. MY son. I will always put him first. He said he is concerned about him to. I reminded him he didn't need to be. I had a mother/son relationship with our son. I was there to make sure he was always taken care of. He didn't need to worry about him. I asked him if he was concerned about his step children since they don't talk to him. He said of course he was. I said the same principle applies. I had a father/daughter relationship with his daughters for 13 years. I was there to make sure they were always taken care of. He didn't need to worry about them. I would always put them first.<br><br>There was a long silence before I told him I had to go. I told him our son was at his friends house but I still had to go pick him up. He asked me to tell him hi and I said I would. I hung up the phone and went to pick up my son. I thought about telling him what just happened but I didn't think he would care.