My FIL is dying and needing a kidney transplant. I match 100% but I won’t give him mine.

My FIL is dying and in need of a transplant. I match 100%. He’s told me he expects me to get tested because he needs my kidney. I’ve been told I’m a match and I won’t give him mine. He doesn’t deserve it. <br><br>My husband and I have 2 kids. His dad has pretty much ignored them since the day they were born. He doesn’t call or visit. He’s completely uninvolved in his grandsons lives and hasn’t even bought them a single diaper. He’s just shown zero interest. <br><br>Sadly, this is how he’s treated my husband his whole life. He’s barely been involved and also shows no interest. He only contacts us when he needs help or money. He’s gone on vacations without my husband. He’s bought himself a brand new truck but can’t afford to buy his son a coat. My FIL has given my husband maybe $50 in his entire life. He’s also never given my husband any of his old things. My husband has had to work from a very young age just to survive. <br><br>When my FIL found out he needed a transplant he was shocked I wasn’t going to give him mine. He’s angry. He says family always looks out for each other but he’s never looked out for ours. <br><br>I’ve been told I match and I won’t give him mine. He’s gone on several vacations but can’t spend a single dollar on his son or grandsons. <br><br>This is the only time I’ve seen my FIL show my husband any interest. He only cares because he needs something now. The rest of the family is upset too. They’re telling me I’m just being immature. They’re saying that I need to show some compassion and that I’m being spiteful. That’s not the case. I’m choosing not to help someone who has never cared for my husband or our children.