I (M26) accidentally found out that my girlfriend (F24) is pregnant. I’m not happy about it.
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I (M26) have been with my girlfriend (F24) for 2 years now. After just a few months of dating, we moved in together, and we’ve been happy ever since. I love having her by my side, she makes me laugh a lot, she’s my best friend. <br><br>We’ve talked about having kids before, and we both agreed that we want to. She wants 3 kids, and I want 2. But we both made it very clear to each other that we would want to start trying after we got married. <br><br>She proposed to me 6 months ago, and we’re currently in the middle of planning our wedding. The plan is to have it next year, and then start thinking about kids in a year or two after that. <br><br>So, last week I got out of work early, and decided to drive home and surprise her with a visit. She was surprised to see me, but she was acting a little bit different. She kept running to the bathroom, so I asked her if she was okay, but she said that she was fine. I dropped it. <br><br>Then, she had to go to the pharmacy to pick up something, and she asked me to drive her there and then back home, and I did. <br><br>When we got back home, she went to the bathroom again, then she said that she was going to take a nap and to wake her up if I had to go anywhere. Then she went to the bedroom and fell asleep. <br><br>I thought that it was weird, but I thought that maybe she was sick or something. So, I went to check up on her, and I found her phone on the bed. I’m not sure why, but I looked at her texts. I don’t usually snoop, but I don’t know what made me do it that day. <br><br>Most of the texts were between her and her best friend, and they were talking about how she’s pregnant. She said that she’s 2 months pregnant, and that she’s scared to tell me, because she was scared that I would think that she got herself pregnant on purpose. <br><br>I was shocked. I didn’t know what to think. I didn’t know whether I should feel happy, angry, upset or what? I’m not ready to be a dad. I didn’t expect to become a father right now. <br><br>I came clean and told her that I saw the texts. I told her that I don’t know how to feel, so I need her to tell me how this happened. <br><br>She told me that it happened after one of our fights. One of our friends came to pick her up, and she hooked up with him at his house and got pregnant. She said that she’s sorry, and that there’s no excuse for what she did. <br><br>I listened, and I told her that I need time to think and process it, and that I will talk to her once I’m ready. <br><br>It’s been 4 days since then, and I haven’t left my parents house. I called out of work, and I told her that I’m just stressed and I need some time for myself. Everytime she calls me to talk, I reject the call. <br><br>I don’t know what to think. I’m hurt and angry, but I also want to be the best dad I can be. Should I be the dad and forget that she cheated? I don’t know what to do.
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