I want to be a single mom

i’m unsure how to proceed with being in a relationship and getting pregnant with my partner. he says he’s happy for me to be a single mom, but also has said that he wants to be a Dad. <br><br>can he just fuck off and let me be my own person. I never wanted to be a family unit. He’s been supportive of me trying for a baby the past 3 months but i feel like a bad person for wanting to be a single mom. i don’t want to be part of a family unit. i want to be me and my child. i don’t want to have to answer to anyone else but myself and my kid. i don’t want to have to be responsible for anyone else. i don’t want to have to share my life or my space. i want a baby but not a partner. he’s expecting to be able to be part of my life, but i don’t want him to be.<br><br>how would he even be a dad at this point if i decide to be a single mom? would i need to allow him visitation rights? i don’t want to expose my child to a man who would always be trying to get back in my life. i don’t want to have to deal with him on a regular basis. <br><br>he would want to be part of my child’s life, he’d want to be able to help make decisions for my child. no. i’m the one that will always be there for my kid, i’m the one that’s making the sacrifices and risking my health and body for my baby. i’m the one that will have to worry about making ends meet, paying for expenses, having to go back to work after maternity leave. he won’t have to do any of that, he wouldn’t even be there for the birth or when i’m going through post partum depression. he wants to be a dad, but he doesn’t want to do anything to actually be one. he wants to reap the benefits of being a dad without having to make any sacrifices.<br><br>what do i do? he says he’s fine with me being a single mom, but i know he would give me hell about it down the line. he’d act like i’m ruining his life if i don’t let him see his kid. he’s inferred that he’d contest the paternity test, only for it to prove his DNA 99.99%, and he’d then shame me into letting him be part of our lives. <br><br>i’m so done with men. if i can’t be a single mom and keep my kid away from him, then i don’t want to be a mom at all. i hate men so much. <br><br>he says he’d want to be the father figure in our lives, but he’d never be able to even be a father figure to himself. he’s never been able to take the initiative, always tries to get out of doing things. he’d want to be a weekend dad, the fun one that gets to spend a few hours with my kid on Saturday, and then not have to see us or deal with us for the rest of the week. <br><br>i want to be a single mom, and part of me thinks that he’s just trying to intimidate me into letting him have a role, when he wouldn’t even be the weekend dad. he’d maybe be able to do the bare minimum one day a month, but that’s it. <br><br>can’t he just fuck off? can’t i just live my life how i want to?