Why would I tell my therapist that I’m a lesbian when I’m not?

I’m a lesbian who goes to therapy with a woman therapist. I don’t think my therapist knows that I’m a lesbian. <br><br>I’m always fifteen minutes early to therapy, and she always runs about 15 minutes late. It doesn’t bother me, I just use the time to text my boyfriend. One time, my therapist walked out to get me for our session and she saw me texting him, then she saw me text the following:<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>I love you so much. You make me so happy. I miss you so much, I wish you were home. I hope you get back soon. I’m really going to miss you if you can’t come back home.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>She saw me text that, and we went into therapy. We had a very normal session, she didn’t mention it, and I didn’t really think about it.<br><br>Turns out, my therapist thought I was texting a GIRL when I texted that. She just told me fifteen minutes ago that she thought I was a lesbian, and that she was happy to see people expressing their love for each other.<br><br>I was just like “UHHHHHHH”. I told her I wasn’t a lesbian, and that I was just talking to my boyfriend. She was shocked.<br><br>The thing is, I told her I was a lesbian when we did the sexual orientation question in therapy. She just thought I said that as a joke. She legit thought I said that as a joke. <br><br>She was just like “Turns out, you’re not a lesbian after all huh”<br><br>I WAS LIKE “I TOLD YOU I WAS A LESBIAN”<br><br>Then she was like “I just thought you were joking about it” <br><br>I just don’t get it. Why would I tell my therapist “I’m a lesbian” and then my therapist thinks “Oh, she’s just joking, she’s not really a lesbian.” Like that’s not even a joke that I would tell. And even if I did think it was a joke, why would I tell my therapist? I thought she actually took me seriously when I said it. The fact that she just thought I was joking goes to show that she had already made up her mind about me when she first met me.<br><br>I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. And that woman thinks that was just a joke. With MY THERAPIST. I thought she was taking my feelings seriously when we talked about it. <br><br>It felt like my whole sexual orientation was invalidated by her. She just had a smug look on her face when she talked about it. She called me a “jokester” afterwards. I’m just so confused. <br><br>Sorry for ranting. I just really needed to talk about this. I just feel so confused and invalidated.