My wife's anxiety has made me a complete afterthought in our marriage

My wife has severe anxiety and takes medication for it. Since she was 17. Since long before I met her. We are in our late 30s now and have been together nearly 10 years. I knew all of this going into the relationship and said I could handle it. But it's been getting worse over time. <br><br>I know a lot of people are going to say I should leave her. But she's the love of my life. It hurts me to see her hurting so much. I feel a lot of pressure to rescue her, to support her, to help her get better. I don't want to leave her.<br><br>She has a lot of trouble leaving the house without having panic attacks and when she goes out she often has panic attacks and then wants to immediately come home. Or she'll be out with me and have a panic attack and we have to come home. I've stopped planning dates for us because she will usually end up wanting to come home due to a panic attack. <br><br>I know she can't help it. I do my best to be patient with her and kind to her but it is making me feel like I don't matter. I live for her. I've given up on any hobbies I might enjoy because she can't participate with me.<br><br>The worst part of it is that she refuses to get help or therapy to get better. She saw a therapist for a short time a few years ago but she said she didn't like it and wouldn't go anymore. I pleaded with her to try again. I told her I would go with her and we could get couple's counseling. But she refuses.<br><br>I am starting to lose my mind and not know what to do. I love her so much but it's starting to look like she's never going to try to get better. I just want to be able to take my wife out on a date to a restaurant. I have given up feeling sexual attraction to her because she's too anxious to have sex with. But I would just like to be able to take her out to a restaurant or go for a hike together or something. But it's gotten to the point where I feel like I'm just a servant to her and I don't matter. I just want her to get better and I don't think she's ever going to try.<br><br>What should I do?