I will love a chubby woman forever no matter what.

I will love a chubby woman forever no matter what. But there are some issues I’d like to address that I have noticed as both a chubby myself and also as a lover of chubby women. <br><br>First of all, the state of men. This is a problem in a general sense (misogyny/feminism, etc) but in the chubby community this is a major issue. Just yesterday, I saw a comment like this, where some skinny/average dude was commenting on a chubby woman’s post in a positive manner, but also saying that he was “just giving attention to the chubby women because they are invisible.” This is just a number of issues, because I’ve noticed that it’s mostly men who are commenting on chubby women while the men themselves are not chubby (or the women aren’t even chubby, they’re just curvy). I think that it’s an issue of skinny/average men trying to the “superhero” who “rescues” the chubby woman from the “friend zone”. It’s very weird and (I believe) is rooted in the idea that men see chubby women as the two things: the caretaker (feeding you, keeping you safe, etc) and the wounded animal (the rescue, the protection, etc). This is a problem in a general sense, because it kind of holds women back from being able to be seen as the same as a man, or even being seen as better than a man. But it’s a problem for us in a very specific sense, in that it holds chubby women back from being able to be seen as the same as any other woman, or even being seen as better than any other woman. It’s like, what do men think that chubby women are born of? Are we not made of the same “stuff” as a man or a woman? Are we not as capable as a man or a woman? A long time ago, it was a problem for women to be seen as equal to men; now it’s a problem for us chubby women to be seen as equal to other women.<br><br>Another issue I have is that chubby women are afraid to speak up for themselves. I’ve noticed this in real life too, but in the internet as well. Chubby women, especially ones who are using their bodies as “clickbait”, don’t just ask for respect, they ask for attention. It’s like, if you want to be seen as the same as any other woman, then you need to act like a woman. Now, I’m not saying that we should all act like the stereotypical “mean girl”, but what I am saying is that we should act with confidence. I’m not afraid to say “yeah, I’m chubby, you’re a loser, get over it”. I’m not afraid to say “yeah, I’m chubby, and I’m beautiful”. I’m not afraid to say “yeah, I’m chubby, and I’m overweight and that’s okay, I’m healthy, I’m happy”. But what I am afraid of is losing the sense of community that the chubby community has. I can go onto a post of a skinny woman with a comment from a skinny man in the comments, and I can see that it’s the same amount of attention that a chubby woman gets, from a chubby man. It’s not often that you’ll get a comment from a skinny man talking to a chubby woman about how beautiful she is. And this is a problem, because it’s not often that you’ll see a chubby woman just saying “hey, I’m pretty, just like any other woman” and holding it at that. It’s always “attention!” this, and “look at me!” that. I’m not saying that I don’t want attention, I’m saying that I just want to be treated like a woman. And I think we should all be able to do that.<br><br>Lastly, I’m tired of the (mostly) young women who are “fat” and posting their bodies everywhere, but are not actually chubby. It’s like, I’m not saying you can’t post your body anywhere you want, but what I am saying is that if you’re going to post your body as “fat” just for “attention!” then you’re doing a disservice to chubby women. Chubby women don’t get enough attention as it is, and it’s not like it’s some sort of fun thing/fetish-y thing to be chubby. Being chubby is hard, and it is a struggle, and it is a hard thing to work through. I’m not saying that being curvy is the same as being chubby. Being chubby is not something that you can just “work off” with a diet, it’s not the same as gaining weight because you got older, it’s not the same as having a “little bit of extra fat”. Being chubby is a different thing from being overweight, because being chubby isn’t the same as being fat. I’m chubby, not fat, and I’m proud of being a chubby woman. But I do not appreciate it when I see (mostly) young women who are “fat” but not actually chubby posting their bodies as “fat” just to get attention. You are not doing a service to the chubby community, you are not helping, you are hurting. We will never be seen as equals if we keep trying to be “fat” to get attention. <br><br>In conclusion, I will love a chubby woman forever no matter what. But there are a number of issues in the chubby community that I believe need to be addressed. <br><br>Thank you for reading!