Crossed a line with husband. Not sure how to get over it.

I (27F) met my husband (29M) through mutual friends. He was a little older than me, and significantly more mature and stable in every way. I was still in college and working a part time job, he was at the start of his career. My best friend set me up with him under the condition that I allow her to be there. We had coffee together, and I ended up hanging out with them for the rest of the night. It was just a real time. I always felt good with him, like things just clicked and fell into place. <br><br>We dated for a few years, which I think my tell the story of itself. We got married last fall. Everything is great. He is my person and his flaws are the kind that you can just roll your eyes at, and think that it could be worse. <br><br>My only real issue is that he doesn’t always listen to me. He has a real problem with listening when other people are around. I feel like it gives people a strange idea of me. <br><br>I was hosting dinner at our home last night. My best friend, mutual friend, my husband, and I were there. We were trying a dish neither my husband or I had ever made before. My friend and I were trying to figure out the steps and there was a discrepancy in the recipe. I jokingly said I’d call my mother. My husband said we didn’t need to do that. I said okay, well then we need to do this. And he said that wasn’t right. He was right, but at that point I just wanted him to include my best friend, or just listen to whatever it was I said and shut up. <br><br>She jumped in and said that I was right, and what he was saying was wrong. Then she recited back what he had just said, so it sounded really dumb. My husband was embarrassed, and excused himself. <br><br>I told her that was over the line, and that she was being rude. <br><br>She said that I had sounded like I couldn’t take up for myself. She was right, I really couldn’t. I’m working on this. But I really didn’t think it would include tearing him down to do so. I thought it was just humiliating and unkind. <br><br>He came back with an apology. He apologized for not listening to me during the dinner. And then he apologized for not listening to me generally. And he apologized for making me feel like I couldn’t speak up for myself. <br><br>The rest of the night was fine. And when my friends left, I apologized for undermining him in his home. I know I didn’t say anything directly negative, but I chose not to defend him. He said he understood where I was coming from, but reiterated that he should have just listened to me. <br><br>Now I just feel guilty. I really think that I did cross a line. Is there a way to explain this to my friend?