AITA for cancelling mother’s day celebration

My (32F) husband (37M) and I are parents to our one child, a son (14M). Both of us are working, although my job is mostly remote now, and my husband works from home 50% of the time.<br><br>Our son is not the most considerate kid. I cannot count how many times I have asked him to hang up his jackets when he comes home, erase the counters after making himself snacks or to keep his bathroom tidy. My husband and I are very hands off and give him a lot of freedom and responsibilities as well as chores and consequences. This has resulted in him being very independent, but also very lazy. Both my husband and I get tired of reminding him to be considerate and to follow the rules.<br><br>For mother’s day, my husband wanted to throw me a little celebration, and wanted our son to be involved. He asked our son to help him with the preparations and our son said yes. I asked our son to be kind of secretary and write down what was discussed and what he was responsible for. <br><br>Out of the three things he was responsible for, he only followed through with one. I was a little annoyed, but assumed he was very stressed with school or something and didn’t mention it.<br><br>On the day of mothers day, my husband went all out. He made all my favourite dishes and got me flowers and candles. I was so touched by his gestures and was ready to forgive our son for his lack of follow through.<br><br>But then he joined us and was on his phone throughout. My husband asked if he had something to say to me and he said “happy mother’s day” without looking up from his phone. I was honestly very hurt and annouced that the celebration was over and left the table.<br><br>My husband and our son were very upset that the celebration was ruined because of my over sensitivity. Our son was very upset that I didn’t appreciate the one thing he did do. I think I might have been too harsh here and ruined a special moment for me and my husband.<br><br>Update: I spoke to my son. When I asked why he didn’t follow through with his tasks, he said he got busy throughout the week and didn’t have time. I asked him to list his activities for the week and he couldn’t. He admitted that he was just distracted by games and tv and didn’t think it would be a big deal. I was very honest about how hurt his lack of effort made me feel. He apologised and promised to try harder. He offered to make it up to me and I agreed, with the condition that he doesn’t expect credit for anything unless he actually does it. He wanted to write me a letter promising to be kinder and more considerate. I agreed as long as he wrote it in cursive. I also asked him to clean the house, including his room, and said that anything he left out would be thrown out. The cleaning was done and he wrote me a very sweet letter. We also had a very heartfelt hug and I truly believe he didn’t mean to hurt me. <br><br>Thank you for all the advice. This was a truly teachable moment for my child.