Single guys who don’t want to date single mothers are just being smart

We all have our preferences when it comes to who we want to date. Some people don’t want to date people who aren’t educated, some want to stay away from people who are promiscuous etc. There’s this one particular trend however, that society absolutely despises and that’s when single guys say they don’t want to date a single mother.<br><br>It seems like everyone has an opinion on the matter whenever this topic comes up and people are usually quick to condemn guys who feel like this. They’re called immature, selfish, and jerks. If a guy says he doesn’t want to date a single mom because he doesn’t want to be a provider for someone else’s kids, he’s called selfish. There are plenty of comments from people who say that you shouldn’t have kids if you can’t afford to provide for them, therefore it’s your fault if your kids make you broke and you can’t find a decent guy.<br><br>The thing is, it’s totally okay to not want to date someone who has kids. To me, it even makes perfect sense.<br><br>In order to understand where I’m coming from, let’s change roles for a second: Do you think there’s any single career woman who works her ass off, makes good money, has a great career etc, who would be happy to suddenly have to-provider for someone else’s kids who she might have met a while ago, when she meets the love of her life who happens to be a deadbeat, single dad? Should she “grow up, and deal with it”? After all, we wouldn’t want anyone to accuse her of being immature, right?<br><br>Being a provider is not the only thing guys have a problem with. It’s also having to deal with the fact that the guy of your dreams who you want to spend the rest of your life with already has a family. He has kids, and that’s number one on his list of priorities. If you date a guy with kids, it’s not just about him having baggage, it’s about having to make drastic changes to your life, putting your career and your dreams on hold, possibly having to move, and adjusting to a completely new life style. That’s something that nobody should be faulted for not wanting.<br><br>I’d like to preface that if you’re in a relationship, and your significant other has kids, of course you have to grow up and deal with it. A lot of people in this position end up loving their partners children, step parents who treat their step kids like they’re their own etc. But if someone tells you right from the get-go that they don’t want to date someone who already has kids, they absolutely shouldn’t be shamed for that. <br><br>There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to date a single parent.