UPDATE: My(F26) boyfriend(M31) doesn't see me as his girlfriend. Feel like his roommate instead of his girlfriend.

First of all I want to thank everyone who commented on my last post. The amount of love and support I got was amazing and really made me feel better in such a tough time. All the comments were much appreciated and I'm so thankful. Thank you so much again. Please see below for the update.<br><br>---<br><br>My(F26) boyfriend(M31) doesn't see me as his girlfriend. Feel like his roommate instead of his girlfriend.<br><br>tl;dr: I feel like my boyfriend sees me more as his roommate/friend than his girlfriend. I want him to see me more as his girlfriend. What should I do and how should I bring this up to him? <br><br>So me(F26) and my boyfriend(M31) have been together around 5 years now. We live together and have for about 3 years. Everything with our relationship is great except one thing that's been bothering me lately and that's how he sees me. When I say how he sees me I don't mean he's abusive to me or sees me poorly. I just feel he sees me more as his friend/roommate instead of his girlfriend.<br><br>I figured this out one day when we were having sex and he was telling me he wanted to go "balls deep in my pussy" and then he said something along the lines of "but you're my buddy". That just felt really weird and off to me. I didn't say anything but it bothered me.<br><br>Over time I've noticed just little things that lead me to believe he sees me more as his friend/roommate than his girlfriend. He doesn't do any of the boyfriend type things and I don't feel like he sees me in a romantic light. Like when we were having dinner the other day he said "thanks, buddy". He doesn't do any of the boyfriend things in my opinion. He doesn't open the door for me, doesn't pull out my chair when we eat at a restaurant, doesn't tell me I look nice(he does compliment me but it's more in a friend way like when I got my hair done recently he said "you look really nice" but I feel it was more in a friend way). He just doesn't do any of the romantic things to me. I don't expect him to do all the romantic things but I want him to see me as his girlfriend and not his friend/roommate. I feel like he doesn't even see me in a sexual light. We have sex but it's not very adventurous and he doesn't seem to see me in a sexual light. For example, and this is something that bothered me, one day we were sitting on the couch and he was browsing Chambers on his phone. He showed me a post of a girl wearing a bikini and said "SFW porn" and he stared at it for a bit. I've never seen him do something like that before. He will occasionally look at porn but he doesn't talk about it that openly so I felt like it was a little bit disrespectful and it also bothered me because in my head I'm thinking "why can't he look at me like that? Why can't he see me in that way?".<br><br>We figured out over time he's demisexual so I understand that and respect that and I know that's why why he doesn't seem to see me in a sexual light. I also understand that demisexuals do appreciate their partner's body but only after they're comfortable with them on an emotional level. I feel he doesn't see me in a romantic light at all. I want him to see me as his girlfriend and not his friend/roommate. <br><br>He would also sometimes call me his best friend but I feel he takes that to another level. I know your significant other can be your best friend but I just don't like it when he says that. It makes me feel like he doesn't see me as his girlfriend. Another example is we were taking a selfie the other day and he put his arm around me and said he loved me but then said "love you, buddy". Again, it just felt off. I feel he never gets rid of the "buddy" thing. He also sometimes tells me I'm a great person, which I do appreciate. I feel he means these things as compliments but they just come off as something you'd say to a friend, not a girlfriend. Like, I always want him to tell me I look nice and I appreciate him telling me I'm a good person but why can't he do the boyfriend things as well? Why can't he tell me I look nice and then pull out my chair at dinner, that kind of thing. He also doesn't include me in his plans and doesn't make me feel special. He'll go do something by himself and then tell me about it but it feels like he's just telling his roommate about his day. I feel he doesn't plan out romantic things because he doesn't see me as his girlfriend. <br>This might make me sound superficial but I don't care if he doesn't buy me flowers or anything like that. I just want him to see me as his girlfriend and not his friend. <br><br>I just feel so weird. I don't even know how to act around him because of this. Part of me wants to bring it up to him but another part of me feels he'll just deny it and I really don't want to seem like I'm digging too deep into this. I feel like I'll just seem stupid bringing it up and that he'll think I'm making it all up in my head. I just feel lost and I don't know what to do.<br><br>EDIT(8/2/2021): Finally talked to him about it. I told him I felt he didn't see me as his girlfriend but more as his roommate/friend and he was shocked. He looked at me weird and said "what makes you feel that way?" <br>I told him everything but I tried to explain it in a way where I wasn't being critical of him at all. Then he was quiet and looked really upset so I asked him if he was okay. He said "yes, I'm okay. I just never knew you felt this way". I told him I didn't want to bring it up because I thought it would be stupid and I felt it was something insignificant but he said it wasn't insignificant at all. He said "I didn't realize how you felt". <br>He thought for a moment and then said "I'm going to try harder to see you as my girlfriend". He gave me a hug and a kiss and said he'd try harder to see me as his girlfriend and not his roommate/friend. It felt so good and I felt a lot better. He was very receptive to what I had to say and seemed to take it seriously. He told me he was going to do better to appreciate me and make me feel special. It felt so good to hear him say those things and I really do think he's going to try harder to see me as his girlfriend.<br><br>So that's what happened. Thank you all for the advice. Much appreciated :)