18 y.o. m: girl said I should take care of myself first

I just went to a therapy session today. I didn’t have any specific goals or anything to work on. It was my first time ever in therapy. I’m actually in a good place in terms of my mental health right now. I felt pretty good about myself after the therapy session. The therapist was very nice, and a cute girl my age that I had no idea was a therapist. I haven’t been in therapy long, but the point of this post isn’t just to talk about my therapy. I’ll get to the point soon.<br><br>I was talking about my relationships in therapy today. It’s no secret I’m not in a relationship right now. I’m not even in school right now. The therapist asked if I had any past relationships in the past. I told her I have in the past. I’ve only been in one. I told her I live with my mom too. This is where it comes to the point. I don’t know why it’s so hard sometimes. I feel like I’m just not good enough in general. I didn’t have much going on for myself outside of school. I feel like I’m just not good enough for women. Like women are unapproachable and I don’t know why. I don’t even know what I’m trying to get over this fear of rejection of.<br><br>After I told her that, she asked if I was in a happy place. We talked a little bit more. I told her I live a pretty simple life. I clean, do chores, I have some hobbies (Sports, Video Games, Writing, Piano, Drumming, Boxing), and that’s it really. I just do what I like. I don’t really hang out with anyone. I have people I consider friends, but I don’t really have any close friends. It’s not like I’m unhappy. I’m in a pretty good place. I have everything I need. I have an okay relationship with my parents. My dad is okay I guess. We don’t really talk much. My mom is mostly alright. Sometimes she just doesn’t understand me.<br><br>My therapist told me that I should take care of myself first, and that I don’t need a relationship to feel valued or any of that stuff. She said I should focus on myself and my goals. I’m just wondering, how do I take care of myself first? Why does it feel like a relationship is what I need? Part of me feels like it’s just because of loneliness.<br><br>TL;DR: Therapist told me I should take care of myself first and not be in a relationship if I don’t want to. Why does it feel like I need a relationship?