So I sort of broke in my bf's friend who is a Trump supporter tonight and my bf and I are at odds

So it goes like this:<br><br>I've been with my awesome bf for a few months. He has an awesome single friend (24 and gay) who is pretty cool and even supports Trump. I've met him a few times, we've had some great times together, and I really sort of like him.<br><br>Well tonight, my bf and I are going to a gay bar and wanted my bf's friend to come. He doesn't have a car so he's going to hitch a ride home with us.<br><br>So I text him sort of awkwardly: "Hey, going to a gay bar tonight and thought you'd be down to come? My bf and I could give you a ride home whenever you're ready to leave."<br><br>Well he says: "I don't know if I'm comfortable with that."<br><br>Yeah I'm just like "shit...I broke in your friend." He said he's not really into gay bars and doesn't want to be around lots of gay men. Okay, no big deal. He's not gay, I'm sorry that I didn't even consider that.<br><br>So I sent him this text: "No big deal, haha didn't even think of that."<br><br>Well now I sort of feel sort of in trouble and sort of in a sticky situation. First of all, my bf and I are going to this gay bar without him and it's totally going to be awkward and sort of just leave him out. Second of all, I really feel like I broke through his comfort barrier and I don't know how to move forward even if I do see him again.<br><br>I don't want to say "no big deal, talk to you later!" and then have him think that I'm just going to ignore him moving forward. I don't want to escalate the situation and now make him feel bad for turning down my invitation, which is already a pretty awkward thing to do, especially when you're gay and you know I'm gay and we were going to a gay bar and I invited him in the first place sort of in a joking manner.<br><br>And what pisses me off is that as a gay man, I've been denied service just because I'm gay and there's nothing I can do about it. I know we're going to miss this guy and have to drink through the night sort of awkwardly because he's going to just sort of be on his own.<br><br>But just to describe the other sort of awkward situation in addition to that one: my bf and I are at odds.<br><br>My bf doesn't want to tell him that gay bars aren't his thing, because that makes everyone feel bad. My bf says that if he wanted to go to a gay bar, then he would go to a gay bar and want to be around the kinds of people that are there. My bf thinks it's totally unfair that I just sort of invited him without asking him if he was comfortable. My bf thinks that my friend should have just said no and not made a big deal about it and that we should just drop the whole situation. My bf thinks that my friend is totally rational and we can't just not talk to him forever.<br><br>Well, I think that this is just a big misstep in our friendship. My bf's friend is not a gay man, he doesn't get invited to gay bars. My bf's friend is straight and doesn't know what it's like to be a gay man. I know that my bf and I just sort of miss him and then just sort of move on with our lives. My bf's friend is a Trump supporter and sort of a dink anyway, and he's not really on the same wavelength as me or my bf.<br><br>So yeah, just thought I'd sort of share this as I'm going to try to get to sleep and I'm just sort of in a sticky situation.<br><br>EDIT: So I just thought that I'd sort of follow up on this just to sort of describe what I did to try to "get out" of this situation.<br><br>So yeah, I just sort of sent him another text: <br><br>"Hey I want to sort of apologize for the invitation. I know it wasn't really your thing and I sort of didn't consider that. It was just a silly text just to sort of be nice. I totally get it if it's not really your thing and I don't want you to feel sort of obligated."<br><br>Yeah so he just sort of replied with: "No I'm fine, and thanks."<br><br>Well, at this point, I just sort of feel like I've over-escalated the situation. I've invited him to a gay bar, he said no, I apologized to him for the invitation. Yeah, I don't really know what else to do and I'm sort of in sort of a weird place. So I just sort of replied with: "No big deal, and thanks."<br><br>Well, at this point, just sort of drop the whole thing. Yeah, I don't really know what else to say at this point. I don't know how to sort of move forward.<br><br>Well, in any case, I hope that you all had a great night.