My wife made a perfume for me as a Christmas present but I don’t like it.

My(30m) wife(29f) just gave me the Christmas presents she made herself this year and I was overwhelmed by the effort she had put into making them. She’s always been very crafty and I love that about her.<br><br>The gifts were: a knitted beanie and scarf, some cookies and a bottle of cologne. I loved the beanie and scarf and the cookies tasted really good. <br><br>But unfortunately I didn’t like the smell of the cologne. I did like the smell, but it was far too strong. At first when she gave it to me, I thought it smelled nice, but as soon as I put it on, it was way too overpowering. I always used to wear this one cologne and I ran out of it last year, but that one was very subtle and you could only smell it when you got close. But this one was very strong, and was constantly noticeable to me.<br><br>I told her that I would never wear it, but that it was okay since I knew that she had put some effort into making it.<br><br>She immediately seemed offended and started to sulk. I refused to wear it out for our Christmas dinner because I knew that she would notice it and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings further. But I noticed that she was still offended because she was sitting away from me. <br><br>When we got home, she asked me again if I would please wear the cologne and again I refused and told her that it was a waste to wear it if I didn’t like the smell. She started to get mad and told me that she knew exactly how much perfume oil she put in and it’s not too much. I told her that if she put in more than 2% of the formula then it was too much, but she insisted that she put in 5% and that she has done it multiple times when making perfumes for herself before. I told her that I knew for a fact that men’s perfume is not supposed to be more than 2% because I went to a perfumery once and they explained the different percentages of perfume oils in different types of perfumes.<br><br>She started to argue and said that I had no right to tell her how much perfume oil was too much and that she knows what she’s doing. I told her that it was proof that I was right because she made this one too strong. She just kept arguing and eventually I got fed up, grabbed the bottle and went to get a litre of vodka and some essential oils to dilute it with. <br><br>She stopped arguing and started crying when she saw me emptying the bottle and putting it in the beaker. I diluted the mixture with the vodka and added some more lime and cedarwood essential oils to bring down the strength of the sandalwood smell and make it smell better. <br><br>When I had finished and put the mixture back in the bottle, she had stopped crying but gotten mad again. She started yelling at me saying that I was making a personal attack on her and that she spent hours making that perfume. She said that she made it specifically with bergamot, sandalwood and musk because she knows that I like those smells and she used sandalwood because it’s her favourite smell. She said that once she had finished making it she loved the smell and was proud of herself for how good it turned out.<br><br>I told her that I understood how proud she was of making that perfume but she could see that I wasn’t happy with it. She started screaming and eventually I had to hold her by the arms to make her stop thrashing around. I told her that she needed to calm down and that she had no right to act this way. She started saying that I’ve been making her feel worthless and unappreciated at home ever since we moved in together and this was just the cherry on top. She said that I was the one who always told her how lucky I was to have her as a wife because of how great of a cook and housekeeper she is. But this just made her feel like I never meant it and that when she tries to do something nice for me, I don’t appreciate her.<br><br>I told her that I do appreciate her, but in this instance, she made the perfume for me and I don’t like it. I told her that if she wants me to wear it then I will but she needs to let me dilute it. She started crying again and said that she never wants me to wear it and that she’s throwing the bottle away in the bin.<br><br>I don’t know what to do, I’ve never seen her act like this so I don’t know how to approach this. I’ve never even seen her get mad without a reason, and I know that this time she had a reason to be mad because I ruined her present. <br><br>But I still refused to wear that original perfume because it smelled too strong. I don’t know what to do now.