My(wife 35) father is dying and my(husband 34) family are angry about the "lack of mourning"

So my family are going through a tough time with my father being in hospital. He had a fall and hit his head, and there was bleeding on the brain which caused the stroke. He's not going to make it and we were told he can go at any minute.<br><br>He's being well looked after where he is but he's in severe pain and the meds make him hallucinate. My mum and I take turns to be with him and comfort him as much of family as possible are with him.<br><br>My husband has been with me this whole time but his family haven't gotten over the fact I didn't quit my job to be with my father. When I told him I couldn't he said he understood but two days later said maybe I should just take care of my father. I told him no, and I would rather he be in professional hands then be with family who doesn't know what they're doing. He said okay but then he went home and told his family what I said. <br><br>They got mad that I'm not with my father and they are saying it's terrible how I'm not even showing any signs of grieving. I'm not the best with words but I will try to explain what they mean by that. They want me to stop washing, stop brushing my hair and basically 'look' like I'm grieving. That I should stop doing my makeup and stop trying to look nice when my father is dying. I told them it won't change anything but they said I should because it will stop bad jinn from being attracted to me. <br><br>They are really angry and I haven't spoken to them in days. My husband is stuck in the middle and he doesn't know what to do. I told him to go home and comfort his family but he said he won't leave me.