Why girls love bad boys and why it’s just a fact of life

Hello, I am a girl who has been in multiple relationships and I want to tell you why being labelled a bad boy is an attractive thing for a lot of girls. And again, just to mention, this is what a lot of girls like. I’ve met girls that would much rather go for a nice guy because it makes them feel better to be in a healthy and happy relationship. Also, just to mention, this is all based off of my experiences and might not be true for everyone.<br><br>I have been in three relationships in my life. Two with “bad boys” and one with a “nice guy”. My first boyfriend was very much a “bad boy”. He had spent 10 years in prison and did a lot of drugs. He was very much a stereotypical thug/bad boy. We were in a relationship for two years and were very happy. He taught me a lot of things and was very good to me. When I started a job that required me to travel a lot, he decided it was best for us to break up and I agreed. We’re still friends and he even came to my birthday party last year.<br><br>My second boyfriend was also a “bad boy”. He drank a lot and went to a lot of parties. He was very much a “bad boy” with a heart of gold. He cheated on me with one of my friends and we broke up shortly after. I blocked his number after that and haven’t talked to him again.<br><br>My last boyfriend was a “nice guy”. He was very nice and he did many nice things for me, but I just wasn’t very attracted to him. I stuck with him for a year before I decided to call it quits. He started a fight with me a month prior to us breaking up and what he said to me really stuck with me. He said that “I’ll always go for the bad boys because they’re exciting for me and I hate being in a healthy relationship because it’s boring”.<br><br>I thought to myself, is this true? Do I really just go for the bad boys because I hate being in a healthy relationship? Well, this post is me confirming that yes, this is true. After I broke up with my nice guy bf I thought to myself for a while if this wasn’t the case. I sat down to think about it and I said to myself “I’ve been with three men in my life, two bad boys and one nice guy. Which one did I like the most?” And that answer was clear. I loved my first boyfriend the most and he was a “bad boy”. From there I thought, “Why did I love him so much? What was it about him that I couldn’t resist?” Was it his kindness and generosity? No. Was it his intelligence? Yes and no. Was it his good looks? Yes, but that wasn’t the main reason.<br><br>It was because he was exciting. He took me on adventures, he taught me how to do new things, he was exciting to be with. He was also a very kind and generous man and always put me first. I remember one time we were at the grocery store together and he saw a woman crying in the car park because she had just found out her husband of 20 years was cheating on her. He went up to her, hugged her and said “If you need someone to vent to or need a ride home, I’m here for you”. It was small things like that that showed me he was a good man. But he was also very attractive because of how exciting he was. He was a bad boy but he had a heart of gold. I didn’t love him because he was bad, I loved him because he was an exciting person to be with and he cared about others.<br><br>I then thought about my “nice guy” ex. I thought to myself, “Why did I get bored of him so quickly?” Was it because he wasn’t good looking? No, he was very good looking. He had piercing blue eyes and short dark hair. He was built and I could see every muscle in his body. He was very hot. Was he mean to me? No. He was always very kind and generous. He always put me before himself and would do anything to make me happy. But why did I get so bored of him? It was because he was boring. He wasn’t very adventurous and I didn’t find him very exciting to be around. I always initiated sex and he rarely initiated anything exciting. He was just boring to be with and I hated it.<br><br>I like to have fun. I like going on adventures and I like to live my life to the fullest. I need to be with someone I can do that with. My first boyfriend was like that. My nice guy ex was not. I’m not saying I need to be with a “bad boy” to be happy, I need to be with someone that is exciting. Someone who is adventurous and who will go on crazy adventures with me. Someone who is exciting, but also kind and generous. My first boyfriend was all of those things. My nice guy ex was only kind and generous.<br><br>That’s why I prefer going out with “bad boys”. It’s not because I hate being in a healthy relationship, it’s because I hate going on dates with boring people. I hate going on a date and the guy is so nervous and can’t even make me smile. I hate going on a date and the guy is boring and I can’t have a good conversation with him. I like going on dates with people who are exciting and can make me laugh. I like going on dates with people who are adventurous and can take me on crazy adventures. I like going on dates with people who are kind. I like going on dates with people who are generous. I like going on dates with people who are funny, intelligent and exciting. I hate going on dates with people who are boring and nerdy. I hate going on dates with people who are mean. I hate going on dates with people who are thick and unattractive.<br><br>So, I’m sorry to all the nice guys out there but if you’re boring, then you’re boring to me as well. I don’t have time for people like that and I’m not interested in going on a date with someone who is boring. If you want to go out with me, you need to be exciting. I’m not saying you need to do drugs or drink all the time, but I’m saying you need to be adventurous. I’m saying you need to take me on exciting dates and you need to be exciting yourself. I’m saying you need to be kind and generous. I’m saying you need to be funny and intelligent. I’m saying you need to be all of those things if you want to be in a relationship with me. If you can’t do that, then I’m sorry but that’s just the way it is.<br>Edit: Thank you all for the kind comments and the not so kind comments. I’m glad I could touch some of you and I’m glad I could piss some of you off. That was my intention. I hope you all learned something from this post because I learned a lot from writing it.