My husband’s ex is a terrible, abusive woman and I’m currently the subject of her abuse.

When I met my husband, he had just separated from his ex wife after about a year of marriage. I have very little respect for this woman, she did the most horrific things to him and honestly I’m surprised he’s not more messed up because of her.<br><br>After they broke up, I was surprised how my husband was okay considering what he had been through. Evicting someone is a really long process, and at the time he didn’t have the resources to evict her (even after breaking up she still lived with him), so she stayed in his flat, paying no rent, until he managed to get her evicted. I couldn’t stay overnight because he didn’t want me anywhere near her, and I was fine with that. I had seen how she reacted to him talking about other women.<br><br>The day after he got an eviction notice she returned home to find the locks changed. That was a few weeks before we moved in together, and I have basically never been allowed to stay at home alone ever since. He’s afraid of her breaking in, and he’s right to be. I’m not sure what goes on in her head but Evie honestly believes she has a right to my husband, that she’s entitled to him no matter what. <br><br>I’m not sure what goes on in her head. I don’t know her and this is all my husband has told me. I’m not sure what goes on in my husband’s head either, because he still lets her dictate his life. I have to be careful not to give her any reason to turn on me or make my life harder, as her warped revenge is usually hurting him. <br><br>She got my husband’s new address by pretending to be me and ordering something to his house, she found out my number by calling me from different numbers and asking who I am until I naively told her.<br><br>The last time she called me, I decided to play along and said I didn’t know the number because I had just taken his old phone. She laughed and said this is the number of his wife, how would I not know who I am married to? I said I was his new wife and she said that’s impossible, he would never marry anyone else. I said yes, we got married last year and she told me I was lying, that he was still married to her. I tried to explain that they had divorced and she was getting agitated, saying they weren’t and that she was his only wife. After a while she just hung up.<br><br>I told my husband and he went into panic mode, saying how I shouldn’t have engaged with her, how Evie will now think I’m trying to steal him from her and pretend to be me to break into his flat while he’s there. I don’t even know what to say, I might have been wrong to engage with her, but for some reason it made me feel good to mess with her head. <br><br>This has been the story of my marriage so far, always walking on eggshells, never staying home alone, never answering the phone to unknown numbers, never checking the door, always being careful. Evie will always be in the background.