My wife is about to get surgery

Hello all. I hope this isn’t too long winded and I’m looking for opinions and thoughts. I get it that chambers is a bunch of opinions and thoughts mixed with haters and keyboard warriors. But still, collecting as much info as I can. I’ve always been a fan of chubby girls. I was a chubby guy growing up so I felt it was only fair I accept women when I didn’t accept myself. I’ve always loved women with a little belly and curves. <br><br>My wife she’s an apple shape woman with a big belly. We’ve been married 15 years and together 18. For probably 12 of those years she’s struggled with her weight and how she looks. But I think the last 5 years it’s become a lot worse. I’m not sure if she’s comparing herself, but she’s always self conscious about how she looks. I try to tell her she’s beautiful to me and it’s a little bit better but still I worry. I can tell she’s also in a lot of pain. She has terrible knees and struggles with walking. She’s around 420 lbs. She’s 5’10 and 38 years old. I’m 6’1 and 290. <br><br>She’s also about to do a duodenal switch. I’ve tried to tell her she’s beautiful to me but I think the pain is about to get in the way. She was approved and is going about this for health reasons. I’m a little nervous but I don’t really know what to expect. I know this isn’t a common surgery but I was looking for thoughts or if your spouse did something like this. I’m obviously hoping it helps her. I think she’s going to go to a 10-12. Her surgeon thinks she can lose up to 200 lbs. <br><br>She’s going to have to eat differently. Her gallbladder and a big part of her small intestine are going to be removed. She’s going to be on different vitamins and I think she’s going to have to eat a lot more protein. I know different foods are going to get blocked and other issues. <br><br>I just want her to be happy and healthy. I also want her to be confident. I feel bad because I don’t know what else to do. I don’t know how to get around this issue. She’s always telling me it’s “fine” when I try to talk to her. But “fine” isn’t fine to me. I feel like I failed. I feel like maybe she’s not having fun anymore. I don’t know. I just want her happy. <br><br>I just want to know if this has happened to any of you and how it went. I know a lot of people don’t like to talk about this stuff. But I just want to hear stories. I’m a little worried but I know this will help her. Thanks for reading.<br><br>Edit: I forgot to mention she was diagnosed with PCOS and hypothyroidism recently. Thanks for the comments. I’m not a fan of surgery, but I hope this goes well for her. I’m going to try and speak to her better and accommodate any changes. I’m not going to pressure her about anything. I’m going to have to talk to her doctor to try and figure out how I can help with everything. Thanks to all the women who are also going through this. I’m also going to drop some weight to hopefully inspire her. I know this is a lot but her health and well-being is most important. <br><br>I also want to thank everyone for not attacking me or my wife. This was a very hard post to make.