My (28F) boyfriend (29M) is a little too excited about my upcoming surgery

Before I get into my issue, it might be helpful to know how my boyfriend and I met. He was one of my nurses when I was admitted to the hospital for an infection last year. He asked me out while I was still in his care, which I thought was a bit weird, but he seemed nice and I decided to give him a chance. He’s been treating me well and I love him, but I have this sinking feeling in my stomach about him and it doesn’t go away.<br><br>I have severe acid reflux and have elected to get laparoscopic nissen fundoplication surgery. Essentially, a surgeon will go in with a camera, cut out part of my stomach, and use the part that he cuts out to create a ring around the bottom of my esophagus to prevent food from coming up. Before the surgery happens, I have to go on a liquid diet, and then fast before the surgery. <br><br>This brings me to my problem: my boyfriend seems oddly excited that I’m going to have tubes sticking out of me. He’s always making comments about how cool it’s going to be to see me with tubes and IVs sticking out of me, even though it’s not going to happen since he won’t be there for the actual surgery. I expected him to be worried about the procedure going wrong or how painful recovery is going to be, but instead he keeps saying “man, you’re gonna have a tube right in your mouth! And you’ll probably have a catheter too.” He’s always joking about it, saying things like “don’t worry baby, I’ll still think you’re hot when you have a tube down your throat and a catheter in your pussy” and “I can’t wait to see you all tube’d up.”<br><br>I don’t know what to do, or how to feel. I feel embarrassed and ashamed that he’s getting pleasure out of what I have to go through. I feel bad that he wants to see me looking disheveled. He seems to have a fetish with this stuff, but it kind of creeps me out to be honest. I don’t want to leave him, but I don’t know what to do. Is there some way I can talk to him about this? I feel really weird about it. Has anyone ever heard of something like this? Any advice would help.<br><br>EDIT:<br><br>Thank you all for the advice. Unfortunately, many of you have confirmed my worst fears. I never thought that I, of all people, would be the one dating someone with a weird fetish. I had no idea this existed. I read a few comments saying that what he is doing constitutes sexual assault. I’m not sure I’d go that far, but I understand where you’re all coming from. This is very discomforting. I’m going to have a talk with him and see how it goes. I really don’t want to break up with him, but I also don’t want to continue being in a relationship with someone who has this fetish. I’ll probably update this post in a few days with what happens.<br><br>EDIT NO. 2:<br><br>For those of you who suggested that I might be able to turn his fetish back on him - my ex-boyfriend used to have a medical fetish (he liked being the patient), but my current boyfriend has never mentioned that he wants to be the one having tubes put in him. I’ll ask him about it during our talk tomorrow, but I’m not holding my breath that he’s interested in this.<br><br>EDIT NO. 3:<br><br>Sorry for not updating sooner but, I’ve been very busy. I had my surgery and it went well, and my recovery has been going smoothly. I haven’t gotten around to talking to my boyfriend yet, but I haven’t forgotten about it. I will update once I do.<br><br>MORE IN THE COMMENTS