My girlfriend may have destroyed my oven, and I may have destroyed our relationship.

My girlfriend of 3 years moved in with me this year. I had been living alone for several years before that, and all in all, have been by myself for about 15 years.<br><br>I don't mind living alone. I think I've done a good job figuring life out by myself, and have become very happy with being a "bachelor" so to speak.<br><br>When she moved in, a few odd things happened here and there that I didn't appreciate. <br><br>They range from things like moving my toaster, or leaving dirty dishes in the sink, all the way to a couple of minor oven disasters.<br><br>However, the big one came on black Friday. We both had the day off, and she was going back home to see her family for the long weekend. She offered to cook a frozen pizza for herself for lunch. I said that was fine.<br><br>When she left, I found the oven in a state of disarray I had never seen before. There was pizza sauce on the burners, cheese and toppings on the elements, and some kind of saucy substance on the bottom. Now, I get the argument that ovens are designed to be used, and I don't expect them to be spotless or anything, but I keep my oven in a state of cleanliness where I could essentially eat off the elements.<br><br>This may sound odd, I don't know, it may sound "Bachelor-y" in a weird way. Maybe I'm just too frugal. But I like to think of it as respecting my belongings, and taking pride in my home.<br><br>I took a selfie of the mess, and sent it to her and asked her what happened. She said that she was about to clean it, but was in a hurry and had to go. <br><br>I asked her if she would be willing to clean it when she gets back. She essentially told me "that's your problem now" (in friendlier terms, but that was the general sentiment)<br><br>In the morning, I sent her pictures of me doing all my chores, including the oven, and said that I may have a bit of a resentment towards her for the way she treats my belongings. She said that the way I treated her was much worse, but thanked me for mopping the floors (which she may have also fucked up, by using abrasive cleaners to clean up after her cat).<br><br>I think things have changed forever.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: I cleaned the oven last night, and today when she got home, she immediately apologized for her behavior. She said that all of the stress from the holidays, and some personal issues going on was a perfect storm for her to act the way she did. And she doesn't want to change who I am, she loves me the way I am, and she just wants to be happy.<br><br>We may need to do some counseling, but I have high hopes that we will both be able to communicate our feelings and needs in a way that makes us happy together.