Boyfriend watches porn featuring my ethnicity and is fixated on stereotypes/ my body parts that are typical to my race; is it over for us?

I am white, mixed black and Asian. I am white presenting. I don't particularly look black or Asian at a glance, though I do have certain features typical of these ethnicities. I have type 3 hair, almond shaped eyes, a bigger butt etc. I am also petite. My boyfriend is white. I am 23F, he is 24M. We have been dating for 3 years and living together for one.<br><br>Everything was great in our relationship up until I found out what kind of porn he watches and that it is a regular thing. One day we had an argument and we both said things we regretted and he told me I can go back where I came from if I don't like it here. He apologised profusely afterwards but then the other day when he was getting ready for work, he was being rough with me sexually and telling me I was a "big booty Latina" (I am not latina). After this happened, I looked at his computer and it was filled with both black and Asian porn. It was all extremely fetishy and racist. Chink big tits, big booty ebony, big black asses, etc. He also regularly looks at cam girls and I suspect that he fetishes them since he always requests a specific race, typically Asian. It also worries me he may be emotionally cheating. He regularly has conversations with these camgirls and tips them a lot. <br><br>I confronted him about this and he apologised but I am too hurt to forgive him. I feel violated, fetishized, objectified, and insulted. I told him he fetishes/sexualises me because I have a big butt and an almond shaped eyes and almond shaped eyes. He agreed that I do have some of the physical characteristics of the women in the porn he watches but he also says I "don't have to worry" because he is very attracted to me as a person. Very attracted to my face. He says I fulfill his fantasy and that I'm the "perfect woman" for him, but he also says he just likes all kinds of porn because it turns him on. I feel severely degraded and think he sees me as a fetish. I am wondering if this is something I should talk to a therapist with him about, or just end it. I don't feel like his fetish is something that he can be cured of, as he seems pretty enthusiastic about Asian women and black women and getting to fulfill his stereotypes.